Monday, November 24, 2008
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
CODE OF PROFESSIONAL CONDUCT FOR NURSES REGISTERED WITH THE NURSING BOARD MALAYSIA
PREAMBLE
Nursing contributes to the health and welfare of society through the protection, promotion and restoration of health; the prevention of illness, and the alleviation of suffering in the care of individuals, families and communities.
In carrying out the above responsibilities, the nuring profession strives to safeguard the interest of society by ensuring that its practitioners abide by a code of professional conduct.
Every registered nurse has a moral obligation to adhere to the profession's code of conduct. It offers guidelines for professional behaviour and practice and can be used as a standard against which complaints of professional misconduct are considered. It complements the Nurses' Act and Regulations, 1985 (Part V Practice and Part VI on Disciplinary Proceedings).
DEFINITION OF TERMS
A Registered Nurse is a person who has undergone a formal course of nursing education and registered with the Malaysian Nursing Board.
1. PROFESSIONAL NURSING PRACTICE
This is defined as the accepted practice of a Registered Nurse.
1.1 Respect for patient
The nurse renders care to patient regardless of ethnic origin, nature of health problems, religious beliefs and social status.
The nurse maintains confidentiality of privileged information and uses discretion in sharing information within the scope of nursing practice.
The nurse works co-operatively with the patient and his family and respects their decisions about his care.
In the event that a patient refuses treatment, the nurse continues to provide the necessary support.
The nurse maintains informed consent in the provision of nursing care to all patients.
1.2 Standards Of Care
1.2.1 The nurse is expected to provide a good standard of nursing care in the following manner:
- conscientiously assesses the physical, psychosocial and spiritual needs of each patient.
- provides compassionate and competent nursing care to meet each patient's needs.
- intervenes appropriately and promptly to prevent complications.
- maintains accurate and proper documentation of care given to each patient.
- gives correct information and education to each patient according to the needs.
- evaluates each patient's response to treatment at regular intervals.
1.2.2 Each nurse is required to keep up with advances in nursing, medical and health practices to maintain competence in nursing knowledge and skills. The minimum continuing nursing education sessions attended by the nurse per year should not be less than 10 hours.
1.3 Accountability
The nurse assumes responsibility and accountability for her own nursing judgements and actions.
When delegating work to a subordinate, the nurse remains accountable for the work done and appropriate supervision, guidance and support must be given to the subordinate. In delegating her duties the nurse should give the subordinate authority and responsibility to make decisions, however she will remain accountable for the outcome of the decisions made.
1.4 Advocacy
The nurse acts to promote and protect the interest of the patient when he is incapable of communicating his needs and protecting himself.
In an emergency situation where consent cannot be obtained, the nurse act in the best interest of the patient within her scope of training and competency.
1.5 Teamwork
The nurse works collaboratively and co-operatively with other members of the health care team. She does not hesitate to consult appropriate professional colleagues when needed.
2. NEGLECT OR DISREGARD OF PROFESSIONAL RESPONSIBILITIES
The professional practice described in (1) above, constitutes the duty of care that the nurse has towards her patient.
Negligence is the failure to discharge a duty to use reasonable care. "Reasonable care" refers to that care which would be exercised by a reasonably competent nurse.
However, as nurses practice in a variety of settings, it is recognised that there may be factors beyond the nurses' control, such as management policies and resource constraints, which affect the fulfilment of their moral obligations.
3. ABUSE OF PROFESSIONAL PRIVILEGES AND SKILLS
3.1 Dangerous drugs
The nurse in expected to abide by the Dangerous Drug Ordinance and Regulations.
She must not use drugs for her own or other people's addiction.
3.2 Sale of poisons
The nurse must not participate directly or indirectly in the sale of poisons.
3.3 Induced non-therapeutic abortion
The nurse must not participate directly or indirectly in induced non-therapeutic abortion.
3.4 Acting as a witness
The nurse must not be involved as a witness for patient (such as an unconscious or mentally incapacitated patient) or his relation to personal matters.
3.5 Confidentiality
The nurse must not disclose information which she obtained confidence from or about a patient unless it is to other professionals concerned directly with the patient's care.
3.6 Undue influence
The nurse must not exert improper influence upon a patient to lend her money or to obtain gifts or to alter the patient's will in her favour.
3.7 Personal relationship between the nurse and the patient
The nurse must not be involved emotionally or sexually with a patient currently under her care.
4. CONDUCT DEROGATORY TO THE REPUTATION OF THE PROFESSION
The nurse is expected to conduct herself in a manner in keeping with the dignity of the profession.
4.1 Respect for people
The nurse must not verbally or physically abuse the patient while caring for him.
4.2 Personal Behaviour
4.2.1 The nurse must not be involved in the selling and buying of goods while on duty.
4.2.2 She must not indulge in the consumption of drugs or alcohol which may adversely affect her professional capability and image.
4.2.3 She must not commit dishonest acts such as soliciting funds from the patient, forgery, tempering of records, fraud, theft or any other offence involving dishonesty.
4.2.4 She must not commit indecent and violent behaviour.
4.3 Commercial undertaking
The nurse must not associate herself with commercial activities that may influence her care of the patient such as promoting the use of medical supplies and facilities.
4.4 Incompetence to practice
4.4.1 The nurse is expected to report to the appropriate authority, any colleague who exhibits unethical behaviour or who is incompetent to practise due to the influence of drug, alcohol, physical or mental in capacity.
4.4.2 In the practice of the nurse's delegated and/or extended functions, such as commencing intravenous therapy, giving of intravenous drugs, venepuncture, taking blood and suturing, the nurse must have undergone an approved course or education and certified as clinically competent by a recognised educational institution before undertaking such functions.
5. ADVERTISING, CANVASSING AND RELATED PROFESSIONAL OFFENCES
5.1 The nurse may disseminate information on health care and services provided that it is done in an ethical manner.
5.2 The nurse must not allow her name and professional status to be used in the advertisement of goods and services which may cause deception and biases in order to mislead the public.
5.3 The nurse must not use calling cards for the purpose of soliciting patients. (Refer to Lembaga Iklan Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia for details on calling cards, signboard, name plates/door plates and availability of services).
6. DISCIPLINARY PROCEEDING
Should there be any written complaint on any nurse, a preliminary investigation will be conducted by the disciplinary committee of the respective organisation and may be referred to the Nursing Board Malaysia for further action.
Note:
Nursing Board Malaysia is the regulatory body responsible for the standard of nursing and expect all registered nurses to practice and conduct themselves within the realm provided by the code.
The code in kept open for review and any suggestions for improvement would be appreciated and should any nurse need clarification, she may refer to:
SETIAUSAHA,
LEMBAGA JURURAWAT MALAYSIA
KEMENTERIAN KESIHATAN
ARAS 3, BLOK E1, PARCEL E
PUSAT PENTADBIRAN PERSEKUTUAN
62590, PUTRAJAYA.
Nursing contributes to the health and welfare of society through the protection, promotion and restoration of health; the prevention of illness, and the alleviation of suffering in the care of individuals, families and communities.
In carrying out the above responsibilities, the nuring profession strives to safeguard the interest of society by ensuring that its practitioners abide by a code of professional conduct.
Every registered nurse has a moral obligation to adhere to the profession's code of conduct. It offers guidelines for professional behaviour and practice and can be used as a standard against which complaints of professional misconduct are considered. It complements the Nurses' Act and Regulations, 1985 (Part V Practice and Part VI on Disciplinary Proceedings).
DEFINITION OF TERMS
A Registered Nurse is a person who has undergone a formal course of nursing education and registered with the Malaysian Nursing Board.
1. PROFESSIONAL NURSING PRACTICE
This is defined as the accepted practice of a Registered Nurse.
1.1 Respect for patient
The nurse renders care to patient regardless of ethnic origin, nature of health problems, religious beliefs and social status.
The nurse maintains confidentiality of privileged information and uses discretion in sharing information within the scope of nursing practice.
The nurse works co-operatively with the patient and his family and respects their decisions about his care.
In the event that a patient refuses treatment, the nurse continues to provide the necessary support.
The nurse maintains informed consent in the provision of nursing care to all patients.
1.2 Standards Of Care
1.2.1 The nurse is expected to provide a good standard of nursing care in the following manner:
- conscientiously assesses the physical, psychosocial and spiritual needs of each patient.
- provides compassionate and competent nursing care to meet each patient's needs.
- intervenes appropriately and promptly to prevent complications.
- maintains accurate and proper documentation of care given to each patient.
- gives correct information and education to each patient according to the needs.
- evaluates each patient's response to treatment at regular intervals.
1.2.2 Each nurse is required to keep up with advances in nursing, medical and health practices to maintain competence in nursing knowledge and skills. The minimum continuing nursing education sessions attended by the nurse per year should not be less than 10 hours.
1.3 Accountability
The nurse assumes responsibility and accountability for her own nursing judgements and actions.
When delegating work to a subordinate, the nurse remains accountable for the work done and appropriate supervision, guidance and support must be given to the subordinate. In delegating her duties the nurse should give the subordinate authority and responsibility to make decisions, however she will remain accountable for the outcome of the decisions made.
1.4 Advocacy
The nurse acts to promote and protect the interest of the patient when he is incapable of communicating his needs and protecting himself.
In an emergency situation where consent cannot be obtained, the nurse act in the best interest of the patient within her scope of training and competency.
1.5 Teamwork
The nurse works collaboratively and co-operatively with other members of the health care team. She does not hesitate to consult appropriate professional colleagues when needed.
2. NEGLECT OR DISREGARD OF PROFESSIONAL RESPONSIBILITIES
The professional practice described in (1) above, constitutes the duty of care that the nurse has towards her patient.
Negligence is the failure to discharge a duty to use reasonable care. "Reasonable care" refers to that care which would be exercised by a reasonably competent nurse.
However, as nurses practice in a variety of settings, it is recognised that there may be factors beyond the nurses' control, such as management policies and resource constraints, which affect the fulfilment of their moral obligations.
3. ABUSE OF PROFESSIONAL PRIVILEGES AND SKILLS
3.1 Dangerous drugs
The nurse in expected to abide by the Dangerous Drug Ordinance and Regulations.
She must not use drugs for her own or other people's addiction.
3.2 Sale of poisons
The nurse must not participate directly or indirectly in the sale of poisons.
3.3 Induced non-therapeutic abortion
The nurse must not participate directly or indirectly in induced non-therapeutic abortion.
3.4 Acting as a witness
The nurse must not be involved as a witness for patient (such as an unconscious or mentally incapacitated patient) or his relation to personal matters.
3.5 Confidentiality
The nurse must not disclose information which she obtained confidence from or about a patient unless it is to other professionals concerned directly with the patient's care.
3.6 Undue influence
The nurse must not exert improper influence upon a patient to lend her money or to obtain gifts or to alter the patient's will in her favour.
3.7 Personal relationship between the nurse and the patient
The nurse must not be involved emotionally or sexually with a patient currently under her care.
4. CONDUCT DEROGATORY TO THE REPUTATION OF THE PROFESSION
The nurse is expected to conduct herself in a manner in keeping with the dignity of the profession.
4.1 Respect for people
The nurse must not verbally or physically abuse the patient while caring for him.
4.2 Personal Behaviour
4.2.1 The nurse must not be involved in the selling and buying of goods while on duty.
4.2.2 She must not indulge in the consumption of drugs or alcohol which may adversely affect her professional capability and image.
4.2.3 She must not commit dishonest acts such as soliciting funds from the patient, forgery, tempering of records, fraud, theft or any other offence involving dishonesty.
4.2.4 She must not commit indecent and violent behaviour.
4.3 Commercial undertaking
The nurse must not associate herself with commercial activities that may influence her care of the patient such as promoting the use of medical supplies and facilities.
4.4 Incompetence to practice
4.4.1 The nurse is expected to report to the appropriate authority, any colleague who exhibits unethical behaviour or who is incompetent to practise due to the influence of drug, alcohol, physical or mental in capacity.
4.4.2 In the practice of the nurse's delegated and/or extended functions, such as commencing intravenous therapy, giving of intravenous drugs, venepuncture, taking blood and suturing, the nurse must have undergone an approved course or education and certified as clinically competent by a recognised educational institution before undertaking such functions.
5. ADVERTISING, CANVASSING AND RELATED PROFESSIONAL OFFENCES
5.1 The nurse may disseminate information on health care and services provided that it is done in an ethical manner.
5.2 The nurse must not allow her name and professional status to be used in the advertisement of goods and services which may cause deception and biases in order to mislead the public.
5.3 The nurse must not use calling cards for the purpose of soliciting patients. (Refer to Lembaga Iklan Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia for details on calling cards, signboard, name plates/door plates and availability of services).
6. DISCIPLINARY PROCEEDING
Should there be any written complaint on any nurse, a preliminary investigation will be conducted by the disciplinary committee of the respective organisation and may be referred to the Nursing Board Malaysia for further action.
Note:
Nursing Board Malaysia is the regulatory body responsible for the standard of nursing and expect all registered nurses to practice and conduct themselves within the realm provided by the code.
The code in kept open for review and any suggestions for improvement would be appreciated and should any nurse need clarification, she may refer to:
SETIAUSAHA,
LEMBAGA JURURAWAT MALAYSIA
KEMENTERIAN KESIHATAN
ARAS 3, BLOK E1, PARCEL E
PUSAT PENTADBIRAN PERSEKUTUAN
62590, PUTRAJAYA.
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Window shopping @ Times Squre, Bkt Bintang
I bought Magic Sing, English n MAlay Version... Wow..very cheap! Made in Korea, Ori maaa..!
Friday, May 23, 2008
Malise of Public Hospial
When Dr Chua Soi Lek first came to office, he apparently called for a meeting of all senior officers and when asked about the priority of problems at the Ministry of Health, he reportedly was inundated with numerous comments about the dastardly troubles private hospitals had created and how they and their devious doctors were leeching the poor Malaysian public and something had to be done urgently.
The gullible Chua, ever willing to show off the political strongman that he conjured himself to be, wasted no time in implementing the shelved PHFSA and together with his DG, bamboozled it recklessly utilizing the BN’s brute but now mercifully clipped majority in Parliament, brushing off all objections against the Act just so he can show who’s boss.
Needless to say despite all of Chua’s and Merican’s big talk and assurances, the first victim who got thrown into jail was a registered doctor, a stark reminder of the previous government’s callous and appalling methods of governance. New health ministers are almost always a shoo in for our machiavellian Health Ministry officials who have become rather slick in cornering incoming, inexperienced and invariably unknowledgeable ministers into making silly decisions. All ministers are political animals and make distorted decisions essentially because the minister is fed only half the story or the story he generally likes to hear. And so it is with the new health minister Liow Tiong Lai. While Tanzanian President Jakaya Kikwete was going on an all out war against witchdoctors (read bomohs, sinsehs, etc) who were gorging out eyes of albinos and the Brazilians were calling in the army and possibly Cuban doctors to help battle the mortal incidence of dengue in that country, back in Malaysia, the hapless Liow had thrust upon him a meaningless business turf battle between pharmacists and doctors as his first task. The Brazilians must have wondered about the priority of the Malaysian health minister and cannot be faulted if they thought that Malaysians had indeed licked the dengue scourge and were actually moving on to bigger stuff. Far from it. The dengue fever outbreak in Brazil had infected 55,000 people, and killed 67 Brazilians so far this year with half of those killed by the mosquito-borne illness being under 13 years old. But Malaysia’s “Disease Control Director”, Hasan Abdul Rahman reported a proportionately higher mortality ratio of 9,889 people diagnosed, with 26 of them dead for the first three months from January to March alone of this year. Maybe we have something to learn from the Brazilians or more likely our stats are out of sync. But these problems will pale into comparison as the new and inexperienced health minister has made a second momentous decision. That of shipping unfortunate children with congenital heart disease to Devi Shetty’s “world famous” heart center 2000 miles away in Bangalore, the Narayana Hrudayalaya. Even Chua, known to be a brusque decision maker refused to take this decision. But the new health minister had no qualms sending these children off….or was he pushed into make this decision. When the NST published their under-researched cum marketing piece for the IJN on the lack of heart surgeons and the need for critical care for paediatric cardiac surgical patients in a center spread on 2/4/08, they didn’t quite delve into the factors as to why this country has not caught up with the rest of the world or at least India, despite the government spending millions to curb the rising incidence of heart disease.
Paradoxically, after 50 years of Merdeka, we are in fact sending off patients overseas for treatment just like the Mauritius, Ghana, Nigeria, Sierra Leone and Bangladesh to the Narayana Hrudayalaya Institute of Medical Sciences (NHIMS) Do we not have the expertise? Elementary. It is just poor management of our resources. Five gov't heart units
The government has five heart units. The unit in Penang was established in 1995 at a cost of RM30 million, followed by Johor Bahru in 1997 for RM40 million and Kuching in 2001 for RM55 million. A new unit was set up at Alor Star when the new Sultan Bahiyah Hospital was being constructed midway causing the hospital to have serious delays in its opening and another at Serdang Hospital which has been designated as the ministry’s heart center for the Klang Valley. Surprisingly despite the government spending millions on infrastructure, little attention was paid to manpower leaving many of its units underutilized or not operational. There are no paediatric cardiac surgical services at government hospitals save for a small number being attempted by an expatriate surgeon in Kuching. The Penang unit, although busy in the beginning, had its work slowed down when the initial surgeon resigned. It further attracted controversy when expensive and untested cardiac equipment bought for millions of ringgit ended up as a white elephant.
It was in the news again in 2005 when surgeons left the unit in droves when belligerent anesthetists there tried to take control of the cardiac surgical ICU which has always been the domain of cardiac surgeons throughout the world. The unit was then briefly run by an Indonesian born doctor who surprisingly was awarded a JPA scholarship to do his training. However patients complaining at the greatly lengthened waiting list reportedly as a result of the new surgeon being unable to do bypass surgery there saw the ministry moving some of its doctors from Johor Bahru to cover the unit. The Indonesian surgeon, in a bizarre move by the MOH, has been transferred to head the Serdang unit. The Unit at JB was initially run by a British trained Malaysian surgeon who left for Singapore leaving the unit now running only on a single theater at times. The Kuching Hospital unit is one of the better run units. One of the reasons for this is the high level of commitment of doctors there and the support financially by the local community.
Despite the lack of manpower, the ministry is planning to open more units in other areas such as Ipoh, Kuantan and Kota Kinabalu. In KK alone, the MOH announced last month that it will be spending RM70 million. Even planning administrators in the ministry have argued that that there should be a period of consolidation instead of splurging more capital until manpower problems are soughted out. But these reservations have apparently been over-ruled by the surgeons and anesthetists. It is always nice to splurge … if it is not your own money, especially if it brings you fringe benefits like more overseas trips for “lawatan sambil belajar”
There are in total 23 units doing cardiac surgery in the private sector. One in Alor Star, four in Penang, one in Ipoh (apparently now defunct), nine in the Klang Valley, three in Malacca, one in JB, one in KK and one in Kuching. Only the Adventist Hospital in Penang and Gleneagles in KL do paediatric cardiac surgical cases in significant numbers. The rest are essentially adult units. Most private units are solo run by individual surgeons. As a result they do small numbers. However the Penang and Malacca units cater for quite a number of foreign patients especially from Indonesia. National Heart Institute (IJN)
In the early eighties, the HKL was the only heart unit the MOH had. It was controversially corporatised to IJN soon after Dr Mahathir Mohamad had his heart surgery. Many then thought that perhaps corporatisation of this service will soon see Malaysia self sufficient in this particular area but as always in the Malaysian scene, corporatisation comes with strings attached. IJN’s founders made a deal where all heart cases in the central region must be solely given to them. They didn’t want any competition. And if you believe a monopoly corrupts, then there must be some truth to this considering IJN’s phenomenal surgical costs. But despite being a monopoly they couldn’t hold on to their surgeons. One paediatric cardiac surgeon resigned to go to Gleneagles while two more found cushy jobs in Saudi. So it has gone back to the same routine of trying to train more surgeons. Despite the high volume of cases it does, it apparently lacks space which may be resolved when its new building is commissioned.
Interestingly, IJN offered to run the Serdang Hospital Heart Unit for the ministry but this deal was obstructed by the ministry’s own surgeons. You sometimes wonder if everyone in this area is really working for the common good of patients, or for themselves, at the expense of the general public. The ministry and their political masters, the MCA, are doing nothing.
Training programmes
So why are we not training enough heart doctors? There are three university heart units based at the UH, HUKM and HUSM in Kubang Kerian respectively. But the volume of surgeries and procedures done are small, especially in Kubang Krian despite the disproportionately large incidence of coronary, valvular and congenital heart disease in Kelantan. The UIA in Kuantan apparently has been enthusiastic about setting up a heart unit there but again there was a problem regarding manpower and commitment by some of its specialists and of course the unending destructive rivalry between the MOH and the universities. The price you pay if you don’t have your own hospital. The first open heart unit this country ever had was the one established as early as 1969 at the University Hospital by NK Yong who took up the post of Foundation Professor in Surgery when the UM’s Medical Faculty was first set up. He had trained at Kentucky University and despite virtually no trained staff he performed Singapore’s first open heart surgery in 1965 after painstakingly assembling and training a cardiac team for two years following his return from the US in 1963. His presence at the UH saw the emergence of new surgeons such as Saw Huat Seong and the late Razali Hashim. The unit was further strengthened by an expatriate surgeon from the Christian Medical College in Vellore, George Cherian. But all this came to an end when Razali passed away prematurely almost 20 yeas ago. Saw Huat Seong is in private practice in Singapore, George is in Kansas and NK Yong is of course retired and is now a famed wine connoisseur. The heart unit at the UH today is more renowned for fist fights and slapping incidents with no trainees forthcoming.
While heart units around the world progressed by leaps and bounds, the UH unit stagnated and in fact regressed. The country’s pioneer unit fell victim to medical politics and to the tantrums of the remaining surgeon when heart disease was the pre-eminent killer with irresponsible university authorities just looking on, doing nothing or dabbling in trying to sell off university grounds. UKM, which initially suffered a similar fate when it set up its unit a decade ago, has progressed much better and proposed a training programme for cardiac surgery last year to the ministry but it has yet to get off the ground. Again medical politics and unbridled, cumbersome, attritional professional jealousy has been the bane that threatens the progress of heart treatment in this country. The MOH and university authorities are in particular guilty of not dealing with these problems firmly, instead pandering to the whims and fancies of individual specialists against national interests leading Malaysian patients now possibly to that dusty road to Bangalore.
Malaise in our public hospitals Pt 2 Ahmad Sobri May 23, 08 12:23pm The Narayana Hrudayalaya center is primarily the brain child of Devi Shetty who initially trained at Guys Hospital in London where Philip Deverall, a British pioneering and innovative paediatric heart surgeon was based. He has no formal postgraduate cardiac qualifications unlike most Indian cardiac surgeons. However, apart from the thousands of cases he has carried out, he has conducted hundreds of seminars, wrote innumerable papers, created many training programs and of course built and managed quite a few heart hospitals.
MCPXDevi Shetty is living proof that clinical and operative skills may not necessarily be congruent to academic qualifications, something our local MMC (Malaysian Medical Council) should wake up to. Dedication and commitment could be far more valuable factors. In fact in all likelihood; Devi Shetty might not even get a job if he applies for one at the MOH as his qualifications would have been deemed by our “elite” council members as “not recognised” Shetty returned to India in 1989 to set up a hospital for the Birla group in Calcutta before ultimately moving onto Bangalore to found the Narayana in 2001. He is married to Shakunthala Shetty, the daughter of the wealthy construction magnate Sri Charmakki Narayana Shetty, who owned the land where the 800 bedded hospital is situated.
The Narayana Hrudayalaya is located in the Bommasandra Industrial Area on the outskirts of Bangalore on 25 acres of land, 30 km from the old Bangalore airport and 50km from the new one. The grimy road leading to the hospital where the pillars of Bangalore’s off/on Metro project stick out like sore thumbs may not really be palatable to Malaysian patients or parents used to our highways. But the hospital itself is a remarkable story. The hospital design is simple and furnishing is bare. It has 25 operating theaters for cardiac surgery alone of which half are currently operational. Shetty’s group which includes surgeons trained in India, Australia, Britain and Russia carry out an astonishing 20 to 30 open heart surgeries a day, clocking close to almost 6000 cases a year. Of these a third are congenital cases.
Maintain good results
Devi Shetty is one of India’s many rising entrepreneurial hospital pioneers who have contributed immensely to not only healthcare in India but also to its economy. They believe not only in bringing world class healthcare to India’s poor but are firm believers of strict financial prudence so that treatment remains extremely cost effective, a culture virtually absent in the Malaysian healthcare scene especially in government hospitals.
In a country where the incidence of congenital heart disease is 8 per 1000 births against a questionable 1 per 1000 in Malaysia, India has 180,000 children born with congenital heart defects every year with 90,000 requiring early intervention at the neonatal stage. Shetty’s strategy for success is simple. Focus on maintaining good results which are the accepted 2% mortality for adult cases and an incredible 5% mortality for congenital heart surgery considering that some very complex cases end up here. And an innovative packaged price for treatment. Heart hospitals are expensive. And if you are going to extend complex world class surgery to the poor, then, to make that buck, you need to operate a large volume of cases which is not a problem in India. Shetty maintains a fixed price of almost RM10,000 ringgit for each paediatric case no matter how complex the lesions are, making his money back through volume. He doesn’t compromise on equipment which is pretty similar to the ones Malaysian hospitals have. He further saves on costs especially on medication, equipment and consumables which are indigenously manufactured. But the most important asset he has is the great depth in staff required to look after patients. And this he does by having active academic programs which is headed completely by a dedicated academic dean.
No one is actually sure why Dr Chua Soi Lek was attracted to this hospital. Perhaps he was impressed by the shear numbers of the assembly like care patients received in diagnostics, theater and especially the ICU. Or maybe he was influenced by an ex-senior health ministry official who is the Dean of a local private medical school which has a twinning program with a medical school in Bangalore where Shetty maintains a branch. Whatever it is, Shetty has done remarkably well. And this he managed to achieve through sheer hard work and perseverance. To operate such a large volume of cases with a low mortality he would have had to climb that agonizing learning curve and cross a lot of dead bodies, something Malaysian surgeons are anathema to, focusing rather on safe, less complex cases. To be successful in paediatric cardiac surgery you will have to run through that deadly gauntlet that ended the careers of Professor James Wisheart and Janardan Dhasmana at the Bristol Royal Infirmary in 1999. Both found out to their costs that taking the risky gamble of operating on paediatric cardiac surgical patients with iffy paediatric cardiologists, anesthetists and ICU staff can not only end your career but may get you profoundly vilified for the rest of your life. But certainly Shetty’s hospital is not the only one doing similar surgery at these prices. There are almost 200 centers in India that offer heart surgery in India. In South India alone, the level of work that is carried out at the Narayana is done in 11 other paediatric cardiac surgical centers with the total number of paediatric cardiac surgical units throughout India numbering about 20. Some of these centers like the Amrita Heart Institute, Cherian Heat Foundation, Madras Medical Mission, Ramachandra Medical College, CMC Vellore, MIOT and the Asian Heart Institute in Bombay produce very good results but do not match Shetty’s costs.
On average, the cost of treating a congenital heart defect can cost between RM20-30,000 per case. Surprisingly only a single government hospital, the All India Institute of Medical Sciences (AIIMS) in Delhi, does any neotatal cardiac surgery of note. And every heart surgeon in the private sector in India will swear that the price of similar surgery at the government funded AIIMS is far costlier then the ones done in private centers, a testimony that accountability in subsidized healthcare is almost always never accountable to anyone, anywhere around the world including Malaysia. Solutions
The MOH stated that an agreement had been reached to operate on 200 children at a cost of RM10,000 for each child over a period of one year excluding incidental costs. These costs would be probably flight fares, food, accommodation, etc which may put the cost at about RM15,000 or more, provided there are no complications. Paediatric cardiac surgical cases are generally divided into cyanotic and acyanotic babies, meaning blue and non-blue babies. It is the blue babies that are difficult to manage, are costlier to operate on and generally would require complex surgery including initial palliative surgery if expertise for complete correction is not available in the first instance. The ministry could outsource non-blue baby and palliative surgery for blue babies to local private hospitals at a competitive price as this will be logistically more suitable for the family. Blue babies that will require complex staged surgery could perhaps be flown to Bangalore although there will be risks involved for the three-hour flight and that perilous road journey to the Narayana itself. Alternatively it could ask local surgeons or their surgical teams in “not so busy” private hospitals to operate in the Ministry’s government units so that there are savings in consumables and theater time. Since the ministry has the infrastructure but not the staff, perioperative care could also be contracted out. Or it could invite foreign surgical teams or surgeons to operate at its heart units on a regular basis to do surgery. Cases that don’t require urgent surgery could be accumulated and be done on a regular monthly basis with our local surgeons and hospital staff looking after them. It would be a good learning experience for them although cases need to be carefully chosen. Or allow private hospitals to employ these foreign surgeons or teams directly and the ministry outsources the work to these hospitals. Foreign medical staff, especially surgeons, anesthetists and cardiologists could be offered incentives like PR and citizenship etc so that they stay back in this country. And importantly, the universities and the MOH have to revise their training programs to ensure that Malaysia’s expertise in this area rises to match the number of patients in this country. Whoever did this marketing for the Bangalore team may have done Shetty a large favour and a disservice to cardiac care in this country. But this story is the natural end result of a poorly managed service that saw no proper audit in cost production ratios. It is sad refection of the state of services in this country where for far too long the focus has been on constructing sophisticated infrastructure without paying attention to human development in direct contrast to India where the reverse has taken place. Before the minister dives into the uncharted National Health Financing Scheme, he should perhaps ponder if outsourcing healthcare to private hospitals that offer competitive pricing is a better option. The Ministry should refrain from reinventing the wheel all the time by building more heart units that only make contractors and suppliers rich, and instead save its financial resources and perhaps outsource its work to hospitals that provide a service at very cost effective prices. You can save a whole lot of money in places like Kota Kinabalu where instead of blowing 70 million ringgit, you can buy services from the Sabah Medical Center where its cardiac operating theater and 12 ICU beds are almost always lying idle. Competition and innovation is the key to lower prices and better services. If the Malaysian public is to be saved, the confrontational policies of the previous former minister and DG must end. There must be greater cooperation between the large numbers of private doctors and the public service. Failure by the new minister, Liow Tiong Lai, to handle this impasse effectively will ultimately see not only cardiac going India way but a whole lot more of other specialties.
form malaysia kini 23 mei 2008--------------------------------------------------------------------------------AHMAD SOBRI is a surgeon who has served in both the public and private sectors in Malaysia for 20 years. He is currently based in South England and his interests include resuscitative techniques including reanimation. His work also includes health policies, planning and finance.
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The gullible Chua, ever willing to show off the political strongman that he conjured himself to be, wasted no time in implementing the shelved PHFSA and together with his DG, bamboozled it recklessly utilizing the BN’s brute but now mercifully clipped majority in Parliament, brushing off all objections against the Act just so he can show who’s boss.
Needless to say despite all of Chua’s and Merican’s big talk and assurances, the first victim who got thrown into jail was a registered doctor, a stark reminder of the previous government’s callous and appalling methods of governance. New health ministers are almost always a shoo in for our machiavellian Health Ministry officials who have become rather slick in cornering incoming, inexperienced and invariably unknowledgeable ministers into making silly decisions. All ministers are political animals and make distorted decisions essentially because the minister is fed only half the story or the story he generally likes to hear. And so it is with the new health minister Liow Tiong Lai. While Tanzanian President Jakaya Kikwete was going on an all out war against witchdoctors (read bomohs, sinsehs, etc) who were gorging out eyes of albinos and the Brazilians were calling in the army and possibly Cuban doctors to help battle the mortal incidence of dengue in that country, back in Malaysia, the hapless Liow had thrust upon him a meaningless business turf battle between pharmacists and doctors as his first task. The Brazilians must have wondered about the priority of the Malaysian health minister and cannot be faulted if they thought that Malaysians had indeed licked the dengue scourge and were actually moving on to bigger stuff. Far from it. The dengue fever outbreak in Brazil had infected 55,000 people, and killed 67 Brazilians so far this year with half of those killed by the mosquito-borne illness being under 13 years old. But Malaysia’s “Disease Control Director”, Hasan Abdul Rahman reported a proportionately higher mortality ratio of 9,889 people diagnosed, with 26 of them dead for the first three months from January to March alone of this year. Maybe we have something to learn from the Brazilians or more likely our stats are out of sync. But these problems will pale into comparison as the new and inexperienced health minister has made a second momentous decision. That of shipping unfortunate children with congenital heart disease to Devi Shetty’s “world famous” heart center 2000 miles away in Bangalore, the Narayana Hrudayalaya. Even Chua, known to be a brusque decision maker refused to take this decision. But the new health minister had no qualms sending these children off….or was he pushed into make this decision. When the NST published their under-researched cum marketing piece for the IJN on the lack of heart surgeons and the need for critical care for paediatric cardiac surgical patients in a center spread on 2/4/08, they didn’t quite delve into the factors as to why this country has not caught up with the rest of the world or at least India, despite the government spending millions to curb the rising incidence of heart disease.
Paradoxically, after 50 years of Merdeka, we are in fact sending off patients overseas for treatment just like the Mauritius, Ghana, Nigeria, Sierra Leone and Bangladesh to the Narayana Hrudayalaya Institute of Medical Sciences (NHIMS) Do we not have the expertise? Elementary. It is just poor management of our resources. Five gov't heart units
The government has five heart units. The unit in Penang was established in 1995 at a cost of RM30 million, followed by Johor Bahru in 1997 for RM40 million and Kuching in 2001 for RM55 million. A new unit was set up at Alor Star when the new Sultan Bahiyah Hospital was being constructed midway causing the hospital to have serious delays in its opening and another at Serdang Hospital which has been designated as the ministry’s heart center for the Klang Valley. Surprisingly despite the government spending millions on infrastructure, little attention was paid to manpower leaving many of its units underutilized or not operational. There are no paediatric cardiac surgical services at government hospitals save for a small number being attempted by an expatriate surgeon in Kuching. The Penang unit, although busy in the beginning, had its work slowed down when the initial surgeon resigned. It further attracted controversy when expensive and untested cardiac equipment bought for millions of ringgit ended up as a white elephant.
It was in the news again in 2005 when surgeons left the unit in droves when belligerent anesthetists there tried to take control of the cardiac surgical ICU which has always been the domain of cardiac surgeons throughout the world. The unit was then briefly run by an Indonesian born doctor who surprisingly was awarded a JPA scholarship to do his training. However patients complaining at the greatly lengthened waiting list reportedly as a result of the new surgeon being unable to do bypass surgery there saw the ministry moving some of its doctors from Johor Bahru to cover the unit. The Indonesian surgeon, in a bizarre move by the MOH, has been transferred to head the Serdang unit. The Unit at JB was initially run by a British trained Malaysian surgeon who left for Singapore leaving the unit now running only on a single theater at times. The Kuching Hospital unit is one of the better run units. One of the reasons for this is the high level of commitment of doctors there and the support financially by the local community.
Despite the lack of manpower, the ministry is planning to open more units in other areas such as Ipoh, Kuantan and Kota Kinabalu. In KK alone, the MOH announced last month that it will be spending RM70 million. Even planning administrators in the ministry have argued that that there should be a period of consolidation instead of splurging more capital until manpower problems are soughted out. But these reservations have apparently been over-ruled by the surgeons and anesthetists. It is always nice to splurge … if it is not your own money, especially if it brings you fringe benefits like more overseas trips for “lawatan sambil belajar”
There are in total 23 units doing cardiac surgery in the private sector. One in Alor Star, four in Penang, one in Ipoh (apparently now defunct), nine in the Klang Valley, three in Malacca, one in JB, one in KK and one in Kuching. Only the Adventist Hospital in Penang and Gleneagles in KL do paediatric cardiac surgical cases in significant numbers. The rest are essentially adult units. Most private units are solo run by individual surgeons. As a result they do small numbers. However the Penang and Malacca units cater for quite a number of foreign patients especially from Indonesia. National Heart Institute (IJN)
In the early eighties, the HKL was the only heart unit the MOH had. It was controversially corporatised to IJN soon after Dr Mahathir Mohamad had his heart surgery. Many then thought that perhaps corporatisation of this service will soon see Malaysia self sufficient in this particular area but as always in the Malaysian scene, corporatisation comes with strings attached. IJN’s founders made a deal where all heart cases in the central region must be solely given to them. They didn’t want any competition. And if you believe a monopoly corrupts, then there must be some truth to this considering IJN’s phenomenal surgical costs. But despite being a monopoly they couldn’t hold on to their surgeons. One paediatric cardiac surgeon resigned to go to Gleneagles while two more found cushy jobs in Saudi. So it has gone back to the same routine of trying to train more surgeons. Despite the high volume of cases it does, it apparently lacks space which may be resolved when its new building is commissioned.
Interestingly, IJN offered to run the Serdang Hospital Heart Unit for the ministry but this deal was obstructed by the ministry’s own surgeons. You sometimes wonder if everyone in this area is really working for the common good of patients, or for themselves, at the expense of the general public. The ministry and their political masters, the MCA, are doing nothing.
Training programmes
So why are we not training enough heart doctors? There are three university heart units based at the UH, HUKM and HUSM in Kubang Kerian respectively. But the volume of surgeries and procedures done are small, especially in Kubang Krian despite the disproportionately large incidence of coronary, valvular and congenital heart disease in Kelantan. The UIA in Kuantan apparently has been enthusiastic about setting up a heart unit there but again there was a problem regarding manpower and commitment by some of its specialists and of course the unending destructive rivalry between the MOH and the universities. The price you pay if you don’t have your own hospital. The first open heart unit this country ever had was the one established as early as 1969 at the University Hospital by NK Yong who took up the post of Foundation Professor in Surgery when the UM’s Medical Faculty was first set up. He had trained at Kentucky University and despite virtually no trained staff he performed Singapore’s first open heart surgery in 1965 after painstakingly assembling and training a cardiac team for two years following his return from the US in 1963. His presence at the UH saw the emergence of new surgeons such as Saw Huat Seong and the late Razali Hashim. The unit was further strengthened by an expatriate surgeon from the Christian Medical College in Vellore, George Cherian. But all this came to an end when Razali passed away prematurely almost 20 yeas ago. Saw Huat Seong is in private practice in Singapore, George is in Kansas and NK Yong is of course retired and is now a famed wine connoisseur. The heart unit at the UH today is more renowned for fist fights and slapping incidents with no trainees forthcoming.
While heart units around the world progressed by leaps and bounds, the UH unit stagnated and in fact regressed. The country’s pioneer unit fell victim to medical politics and to the tantrums of the remaining surgeon when heart disease was the pre-eminent killer with irresponsible university authorities just looking on, doing nothing or dabbling in trying to sell off university grounds. UKM, which initially suffered a similar fate when it set up its unit a decade ago, has progressed much better and proposed a training programme for cardiac surgery last year to the ministry but it has yet to get off the ground. Again medical politics and unbridled, cumbersome, attritional professional jealousy has been the bane that threatens the progress of heart treatment in this country. The MOH and university authorities are in particular guilty of not dealing with these problems firmly, instead pandering to the whims and fancies of individual specialists against national interests leading Malaysian patients now possibly to that dusty road to Bangalore.
Malaise in our public hospitals Pt 2 Ahmad Sobri May 23, 08 12:23pm The Narayana Hrudayalaya center is primarily the brain child of Devi Shetty who initially trained at Guys Hospital in London where Philip Deverall, a British pioneering and innovative paediatric heart surgeon was based. He has no formal postgraduate cardiac qualifications unlike most Indian cardiac surgeons. However, apart from the thousands of cases he has carried out, he has conducted hundreds of seminars, wrote innumerable papers, created many training programs and of course built and managed quite a few heart hospitals.
MCPXDevi Shetty is living proof that clinical and operative skills may not necessarily be congruent to academic qualifications, something our local MMC (Malaysian Medical Council) should wake up to. Dedication and commitment could be far more valuable factors. In fact in all likelihood; Devi Shetty might not even get a job if he applies for one at the MOH as his qualifications would have been deemed by our “elite” council members as “not recognised” Shetty returned to India in 1989 to set up a hospital for the Birla group in Calcutta before ultimately moving onto Bangalore to found the Narayana in 2001. He is married to Shakunthala Shetty, the daughter of the wealthy construction magnate Sri Charmakki Narayana Shetty, who owned the land where the 800 bedded hospital is situated.
The Narayana Hrudayalaya is located in the Bommasandra Industrial Area on the outskirts of Bangalore on 25 acres of land, 30 km from the old Bangalore airport and 50km from the new one. The grimy road leading to the hospital where the pillars of Bangalore’s off/on Metro project stick out like sore thumbs may not really be palatable to Malaysian patients or parents used to our highways. But the hospital itself is a remarkable story. The hospital design is simple and furnishing is bare. It has 25 operating theaters for cardiac surgery alone of which half are currently operational. Shetty’s group which includes surgeons trained in India, Australia, Britain and Russia carry out an astonishing 20 to 30 open heart surgeries a day, clocking close to almost 6000 cases a year. Of these a third are congenital cases.
Maintain good results
Devi Shetty is one of India’s many rising entrepreneurial hospital pioneers who have contributed immensely to not only healthcare in India but also to its economy. They believe not only in bringing world class healthcare to India’s poor but are firm believers of strict financial prudence so that treatment remains extremely cost effective, a culture virtually absent in the Malaysian healthcare scene especially in government hospitals.
In a country where the incidence of congenital heart disease is 8 per 1000 births against a questionable 1 per 1000 in Malaysia, India has 180,000 children born with congenital heart defects every year with 90,000 requiring early intervention at the neonatal stage. Shetty’s strategy for success is simple. Focus on maintaining good results which are the accepted 2% mortality for adult cases and an incredible 5% mortality for congenital heart surgery considering that some very complex cases end up here. And an innovative packaged price for treatment. Heart hospitals are expensive. And if you are going to extend complex world class surgery to the poor, then, to make that buck, you need to operate a large volume of cases which is not a problem in India. Shetty maintains a fixed price of almost RM10,000 ringgit for each paediatric case no matter how complex the lesions are, making his money back through volume. He doesn’t compromise on equipment which is pretty similar to the ones Malaysian hospitals have. He further saves on costs especially on medication, equipment and consumables which are indigenously manufactured. But the most important asset he has is the great depth in staff required to look after patients. And this he does by having active academic programs which is headed completely by a dedicated academic dean.
No one is actually sure why Dr Chua Soi Lek was attracted to this hospital. Perhaps he was impressed by the shear numbers of the assembly like care patients received in diagnostics, theater and especially the ICU. Or maybe he was influenced by an ex-senior health ministry official who is the Dean of a local private medical school which has a twinning program with a medical school in Bangalore where Shetty maintains a branch. Whatever it is, Shetty has done remarkably well. And this he managed to achieve through sheer hard work and perseverance. To operate such a large volume of cases with a low mortality he would have had to climb that agonizing learning curve and cross a lot of dead bodies, something Malaysian surgeons are anathema to, focusing rather on safe, less complex cases. To be successful in paediatric cardiac surgery you will have to run through that deadly gauntlet that ended the careers of Professor James Wisheart and Janardan Dhasmana at the Bristol Royal Infirmary in 1999. Both found out to their costs that taking the risky gamble of operating on paediatric cardiac surgical patients with iffy paediatric cardiologists, anesthetists and ICU staff can not only end your career but may get you profoundly vilified for the rest of your life. But certainly Shetty’s hospital is not the only one doing similar surgery at these prices. There are almost 200 centers in India that offer heart surgery in India. In South India alone, the level of work that is carried out at the Narayana is done in 11 other paediatric cardiac surgical centers with the total number of paediatric cardiac surgical units throughout India numbering about 20. Some of these centers like the Amrita Heart Institute, Cherian Heat Foundation, Madras Medical Mission, Ramachandra Medical College, CMC Vellore, MIOT and the Asian Heart Institute in Bombay produce very good results but do not match Shetty’s costs.
On average, the cost of treating a congenital heart defect can cost between RM20-30,000 per case. Surprisingly only a single government hospital, the All India Institute of Medical Sciences (AIIMS) in Delhi, does any neotatal cardiac surgery of note. And every heart surgeon in the private sector in India will swear that the price of similar surgery at the government funded AIIMS is far costlier then the ones done in private centers, a testimony that accountability in subsidized healthcare is almost always never accountable to anyone, anywhere around the world including Malaysia. Solutions
The MOH stated that an agreement had been reached to operate on 200 children at a cost of RM10,000 for each child over a period of one year excluding incidental costs. These costs would be probably flight fares, food, accommodation, etc which may put the cost at about RM15,000 or more, provided there are no complications. Paediatric cardiac surgical cases are generally divided into cyanotic and acyanotic babies, meaning blue and non-blue babies. It is the blue babies that are difficult to manage, are costlier to operate on and generally would require complex surgery including initial palliative surgery if expertise for complete correction is not available in the first instance. The ministry could outsource non-blue baby and palliative surgery for blue babies to local private hospitals at a competitive price as this will be logistically more suitable for the family. Blue babies that will require complex staged surgery could perhaps be flown to Bangalore although there will be risks involved for the three-hour flight and that perilous road journey to the Narayana itself. Alternatively it could ask local surgeons or their surgical teams in “not so busy” private hospitals to operate in the Ministry’s government units so that there are savings in consumables and theater time. Since the ministry has the infrastructure but not the staff, perioperative care could also be contracted out. Or it could invite foreign surgical teams or surgeons to operate at its heart units on a regular basis to do surgery. Cases that don’t require urgent surgery could be accumulated and be done on a regular monthly basis with our local surgeons and hospital staff looking after them. It would be a good learning experience for them although cases need to be carefully chosen. Or allow private hospitals to employ these foreign surgeons or teams directly and the ministry outsources the work to these hospitals. Foreign medical staff, especially surgeons, anesthetists and cardiologists could be offered incentives like PR and citizenship etc so that they stay back in this country. And importantly, the universities and the MOH have to revise their training programs to ensure that Malaysia’s expertise in this area rises to match the number of patients in this country. Whoever did this marketing for the Bangalore team may have done Shetty a large favour and a disservice to cardiac care in this country. But this story is the natural end result of a poorly managed service that saw no proper audit in cost production ratios. It is sad refection of the state of services in this country where for far too long the focus has been on constructing sophisticated infrastructure without paying attention to human development in direct contrast to India where the reverse has taken place. Before the minister dives into the uncharted National Health Financing Scheme, he should perhaps ponder if outsourcing healthcare to private hospitals that offer competitive pricing is a better option. The Ministry should refrain from reinventing the wheel all the time by building more heart units that only make contractors and suppliers rich, and instead save its financial resources and perhaps outsource its work to hospitals that provide a service at very cost effective prices. You can save a whole lot of money in places like Kota Kinabalu where instead of blowing 70 million ringgit, you can buy services from the Sabah Medical Center where its cardiac operating theater and 12 ICU beds are almost always lying idle. Competition and innovation is the key to lower prices and better services. If the Malaysian public is to be saved, the confrontational policies of the previous former minister and DG must end. There must be greater cooperation between the large numbers of private doctors and the public service. Failure by the new minister, Liow Tiong Lai, to handle this impasse effectively will ultimately see not only cardiac going India way but a whole lot more of other specialties.
form malaysia kini 23 mei 2008--------------------------------------------------------------------------------AHMAD SOBRI is a surgeon who has served in both the public and private sectors in Malaysia for 20 years. He is currently based in South England and his interests include resuscitative techniques including reanimation. His work also includes health policies, planning and finance.
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Sunday, May 18, 2008
Tak Mau Bercakap Sampai Mati Pun Tak Aper
Tak mau bercakap sampai mati pun tak aper.Tetapi, dengan satu syarat, jalan marah dan dendam kalau I pun tak mahu bercakap.Dua tida hari lepas, pasal Rosmah ni, I ingat dah settle, sebab I hanya berhubungan sebagai kawan, iaitu kawan baik U.tetapi, nampaknya tak habis-habis lagi nak di korek dan dicari pasal.kalau berlaku macam ini, I tahu, ada sesuatu yg ingin dilindungi.Tak payah.Tak payah nak berlindung disebalek alasan ini.pergilah dan buat lah apa yang U suka.
Tak jawab makna Tak Sayang
Ina tak jawab telefon I, mengisyaratkan bahawa U dah menolak segala kebaikan I selama ini.Tak per.Jangan risau. I pun tahu, sebab sebenar Ina tak mahu I mengenali kawan-kawan U, bukanlah kerana cemburu.Tetapi, adalah kerana ketakutan U.Takut kalau semua RAHSIA U dan perbuatan U disana terbongkar. I tak kisah lagi.jangan cari alasan kecil.I pun dah tahu OK?
2170 hari
Kalau Ina tak mau bercakap dan menjwb telefon I pun Tak aper. tak kisah. Sebab I ni buat salah besar kerana berhubungan dengan kawan U sebagai sahabat.Tak payah lah nak cari pasai.Sehingga saat ini, dah 2170 hari dan 15 jam Ina menjadi Isteri I.Dan selama itulah U duduk dalam keadaan yang mencurigai I.Sekarang dah jelas I ni lelaki yang Ina tak boleh percayai langsung.I reda apapun yang akan berlaku.Dan I tetap mencintai U.Hanya U dan KT Isteri I.Kalau U balek nanti, Tak mahu jumpa I lagi dan tak mahu ke Tapah pun tak apa.3 tahun U tinggalkan I . I dah biasa hidup mencintai U tanpa kehadiran U.Jadi buat, kata dan fikirlah mengikut kemahuan dan kepuasan U.Apapun yang berlaku I tak menyesal lagi, sebab semuanya berpunca SALAH dan SILAP I.
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Kata-kata Mengores Kalbu
Ina TQ dengan penuh sinis kerana I tak dpt pick-up phone. Sungguh sinis dan berpsangka buruk tanpa sedikitpun untuk berfikir yang baik. Tanpa befikir mungkin pada masa itu ada sesuatu berlaku, kalaupun tidak bergelut dengan maut.
Kemudian sms dengan tuduhan yang berat utuk di terima dengar.Apa tujuan? Hanya Allah dan Ina sendirilah yang tahu.
Segala kata-kata kesat dan tuduhan melulu yang ditujukan kepada seorang suami pastinya bukannya datang dari rasa kasihsayang dan cinta melainkan rasa kebencian yang membuak-buak. Siapakah lagi yang sanggup hidup dengan linangan airmata dan bersedih kerana digores dengan kata-kata yang menghina, yang mengertak dan mengancam? Dan kata-kata itu datangnya dari orang yang mendakwa mencintainya malahan pula bergelar isteri dan tidak pula pernah menunjukkan kekesalan kerana perbuatan itu?
Kemudian sms dengan tuduhan yang berat utuk di terima dengar.Apa tujuan? Hanya Allah dan Ina sendirilah yang tahu.
Segala kata-kata kesat dan tuduhan melulu yang ditujukan kepada seorang suami pastinya bukannya datang dari rasa kasihsayang dan cinta melainkan rasa kebencian yang membuak-buak. Siapakah lagi yang sanggup hidup dengan linangan airmata dan bersedih kerana digores dengan kata-kata yang menghina, yang mengertak dan mengancam? Dan kata-kata itu datangnya dari orang yang mendakwa mencintainya malahan pula bergelar isteri dan tidak pula pernah menunjukkan kekesalan kerana perbuatan itu?
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Jangan cari Alasan
Kenapa U selalu cakap Tak mau balek malaysia? dan selalu menyalahkan I?
ini mungkin jawapannya:
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ini mungkin jawapannya:
Date: Sun, 8 Jul 2007 02:02:58 -0700 (PDT) From: shahrina26@yahoo.com Yahoo! DomainKeys has confirmed that this message was sent by yahoo.com. Learn more Subject: i miss you To: "OSAMA AHMED" <superior_man56@yahoo.com> Add to Address Book Add Mobile Alert thank u for the photo my mother is waiting for, and thank u for calling me from Saudi to tell me about your number, and your love to me. thank u for every thing especialy your hug and kiss the other day.
Date: Wed, 27 Jun 2007 05:13:05 -0700 (PDT) From: "shahrina hashim" <shahrina26@yahoo.com> Add to Address Book Add Mobile Alert Subject: BROKEN HEART To: "OSAMA AHMED" <superior_man56@yahoo.com>
Note: forwarded message attached.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Yahoo! oneSearch: Finally, mobile search that gives answers, not web links. Forwarded Message [ Download File ]
Date: Fri, 8 Jun 2007 06:42:53 -0700 (PDT) From: Subject: SONG ARABIC To: shahrina26@yahoo.com HTML Attachment [ Scan and Save to Computer ]
hi darling i love you so much. i attach to you a song mixed of ROMANIAN and ARABIC languages, hear it it is veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyy nice, i love it so much, as i love you too..and it is a gift from me to you to express my emotions to you, when you hear it, tell me about your opinion. i loveeeeeeeeeeeee you i wish to see you i misssssssssssss your lovely kiss so much my handsome man.ALI NASER
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Doa
Kalau dia memang bukan lagi suamiku, Alhamdulillah,Jodohkan aku dengan yang lain segera.
Jauhkankanlah dengan dia ..
Tapi kalau jodohku, Jauhkanlah. …Jika dia berjodoh denganku, maka jadikanlah kami tidak berjodoh..dan bermusoh dan berbenci selalu atau tidak megingati satu sama lain, tidak merindui satu sama lain,
Kalau dia jodohku juga , jangan sampai dia berjodoh denganku lama-lama , atau menjadi suamiku lama-lama, Jodohkan aku dengan orang lain, selain dia.Seperti yang aku mahu.
Kalau aku tidak bisa di jodohkan dengan orang lain, seperti yang aku minta, jangan sampai dia dapat jodoh denganku, baiklah aku menjanda, atau berilah yang lain yang aku hargai, yang aku cinta, yang aku mahu, yang aku akan hormati sehingga mati, biarkan aku tidak berjodoh orang jahat seperti diri dia...
Dan pada saat aku telah tidak memiliki jodoh, jodohkanlah aku dengan orang yang aku cinta dan mahu, tetapi bukan dia.. bukan orang seperti dia..Kalau dia jodoh orang lain, kekalkanlah! Jodohkanlah bersama dengan dia itu... selamanya...tetapi bukan aku, Biar aku tetap menjadi jodoh orang lain, dan berbahagia, biarlah aku ketemu jodoh tetapi bukan dengan yang, seperti dia ,
dan kemudian Jodohkan kembali aku dengan si DIA dan dengan dia selamanya....“Amin…”.
Jauhkankanlah dengan dia ..
Tapi kalau jodohku, Jauhkanlah. …Jika dia berjodoh denganku, maka jadikanlah kami tidak berjodoh..dan bermusoh dan berbenci selalu atau tidak megingati satu sama lain, tidak merindui satu sama lain,
Kalau dia jodohku juga , jangan sampai dia berjodoh denganku lama-lama , atau menjadi suamiku lama-lama, Jodohkan aku dengan orang lain, selain dia.Seperti yang aku mahu.
Kalau aku tidak bisa di jodohkan dengan orang lain, seperti yang aku minta, jangan sampai dia dapat jodoh denganku, baiklah aku menjanda, atau berilah yang lain yang aku hargai, yang aku cinta, yang aku mahu, yang aku akan hormati sehingga mati, biarkan aku tidak berjodoh orang jahat seperti diri dia...
Dan pada saat aku telah tidak memiliki jodoh, jodohkanlah aku dengan orang yang aku cinta dan mahu, tetapi bukan dia.. bukan orang seperti dia..Kalau dia jodoh orang lain, kekalkanlah! Jodohkanlah bersama dengan dia itu... selamanya...tetapi bukan aku, Biar aku tetap menjadi jodoh orang lain, dan berbahagia, biarlah aku ketemu jodoh tetapi bukan dengan yang, seperti dia ,
dan kemudian Jodohkan kembali aku dengan si DIA dan dengan dia selamanya....“Amin…”.
Mencari Alasan
Hanya kerana satu gambar Kad kpd kawan U sanggup bersumpah tak mahu balek lagi?
Hanya kerana itu U sangup menuduh dengan penuh rasa benci bahawa I lelaki jahat?
Hanya kerana gambar itu u sanggup menghemburkan kata-kata yang menghina kasihsayang I selama ini? dan menyesal kerana nak balek Malaysia? Menyesal kerana tak dapat sambung kontrak?
Terpulanglah pada U. Tak perlulah mengunakan alasan yang sekecil itu untuk lari. I pun dah tahu dan merasakan, dah lama U bukannya ingin hidup dengan I. Sebenarnya U ingin yang lain. U suka I kununnya kerana I cerdik. Bukannya kerana Cinta. U akan temui banyak orang cerdik nanti. Mungkin sudah lama U temui, cuma menunggu masa sesuai saja. Buatlah apa yang U suka. Selama ini pun I tak ada kuasa membantah dan melarang.
Bertahun-tahun u membuat bakti kepada sekeliling orang dan kawan u disana. Macam-macam.
I apa dapat dari semua itu? Apa yang I dapat dari pengorbanan(?) itu?
Buatlah apa yang U suka. Selama ini pun I tak ada kuasa membantah dan melarang.
I tahu apa yang berlaku disana. Kita tenguk nanti siapa yang benar. U selalu mahu menang, Dan U akan sentiasa MENANG! dengan I.
Sehingga akhirnya tiada apa lagi yang U boleh mencari alasan! barulah puas hati U. Baharulah U akan merasa U cerdik. Biarlah I menjadi Bodoh.
I merasa bahagia sekarang mendengar sendiri apa yang terhambur dari mulut manis u.
U pun sudah bersumpah. I tak harap apa-apa lagi dari U. Get Lost!
Hanya kerana itu U sangup menuduh dengan penuh rasa benci bahawa I lelaki jahat?
Hanya kerana gambar itu u sanggup menghemburkan kata-kata yang menghina kasihsayang I selama ini? dan menyesal kerana nak balek Malaysia? Menyesal kerana tak dapat sambung kontrak?
Terpulanglah pada U. Tak perlulah mengunakan alasan yang sekecil itu untuk lari. I pun dah tahu dan merasakan, dah lama U bukannya ingin hidup dengan I. Sebenarnya U ingin yang lain. U suka I kununnya kerana I cerdik. Bukannya kerana Cinta. U akan temui banyak orang cerdik nanti. Mungkin sudah lama U temui, cuma menunggu masa sesuai saja. Buatlah apa yang U suka. Selama ini pun I tak ada kuasa membantah dan melarang.
Bertahun-tahun u membuat bakti kepada sekeliling orang dan kawan u disana. Macam-macam.
I apa dapat dari semua itu? Apa yang I dapat dari pengorbanan(?) itu?
Buatlah apa yang U suka. Selama ini pun I tak ada kuasa membantah dan melarang.
I tahu apa yang berlaku disana. Kita tenguk nanti siapa yang benar. U selalu mahu menang, Dan U akan sentiasa MENANG! dengan I.
Sehingga akhirnya tiada apa lagi yang U boleh mencari alasan! barulah puas hati U. Baharulah U akan merasa U cerdik. Biarlah I menjadi Bodoh.
I merasa bahagia sekarang mendengar sendiri apa yang terhambur dari mulut manis u.
U pun sudah bersumpah. I tak harap apa-apa lagi dari U. Get Lost!
Monday, May 12, 2008
Money in motion creates more money.
span How does money in motion produce additional wealth? This is possible only when each of the other nine principles are applied to your financial situation, coming together like a crescendo behind Principle 10. The appli- cation of all the principles builds momentum and creates opportunities to put your money to work in a variety of ways. Applying each of the 10 prin- ciples at the same time has exponential power to transform your life, creat- ing a multiplier effect. Systematically building from one Money Mastery prin- ciple to the next and applying each principle on top of the other is like multiplying two times two times two times two: The end result is much greater than if those numbers are simply added together. That’s because each prin- ciple builds on the power and potency of the one that came before.
2 x 2 x 2 x 2 = 16
On the other hand, applying some of the principles part of the time is much like adding two plus two plus two plus two. You will see some results, but the overall effectiveness will be much less potent.
2 + 2 + 2 + 2 = 8
When you apply all of the principles all of the time by controlling yourspending, eliminating debt, planning for the future, and reducing your taxes, you are in a position to put your money to work for you so that it can do more than one thing at the same time, creating opportunities to maximize your wealth to its fullest; this is what Principle 10’s “money in motion” is all about.
The basic concept behind Principle 10 is learning how to get your dollar to do more than one thing at the same time. class="fullpost"> So how can money be put in motion to create more money? Let’s take a look at banks as a prime example of Principle 10. Suppose you deposit $1,000 ina bank. The bank pays you, in turn, 4 percent interest on that amount. What does the bank then do with that $1,000? Under the rules of the banking system,it can go to the Federal Reserve and get an additional amount to go with it,$10,000 for example. It now has $11,000 it can lend out at a much higher rate of interest than it pays you. Of course this is a simplified example of a very complex system, but it gives you an idea of how money in motion creates more money. Banks follow the very strict federal regulations that govern the banking indus- try, along with their own operating protocols to get your dollars to do more than one thing for them at a time. Take a closer look at how banks put money in motion, continually turning your money over and over to make a profit.If the bank lends out your money as part of a car loan and gets 10 percent interest on the loan, it will make 6 percent profit (af- ter paying you 4 percent in- terest ) on that car loan, right? Now when the car dealer gets the loan pro- ceeds, he puts that money into his bank. While the car dealer lets the money sit until needed, that bank loans his money out on a home construction loan at a rate of 9 percent. Then, the contractor for that con- struction job puts the
money in his bank and before he makes payroll or buys lumber, his bank has already loaned that money for a computer at 14 percent. When the com- puter dealer puts the loan proceeds into the bank, the bank turns around and loans it out on a boat for 10 percent. The boat dealer then deposits that money in his bank, and that bank loans it out on a Visa card at 18 percent.From this example you can see that $1,000 will typically multiply within the banking system eight to 10 times; often this will occur very quickly, within hours or days. The banks benefit every time that money turns over, no mat- ter what the rate—18, 6, 10, 8, and even 4 percent. If you add up all the turns on that original $1,000 in a year, the banking system will have earned between 38 to 42 percent while you only earn 4. Who’s winning this game? The point is, that if like the bank, you can get your money to do more than one thing at a time, you can look forward to both safety for your money and higher rates of return. This idea is worth repeating:
If you can get your money to turn over, or in other words, do more than one thing at the same time, you can makea constant and higher rate of return on that money.
In the prior bank example, we showed how these institutions literally turn money over and over again. In this next example, we’ll demonstrate how more than just money can be put in motion to build more income and wealth. Take for instance a large public company that sells shares of stock. Let’s say this company builds roads and bridges and takes the money from the sold shares to buy road-graders and other machinery. It then uses this equipment over and over again on many jobs, “turning” it many times to make a profit. The equipment only needed to be purchased once, but is used many times over to create additional wealth. This company, rather than getting a set “rate of return” on their money like its share holders, actually uses its equipment to turn over a greater and more continual profit.“Okay,” you might be thinking, “that’s fine for banks and large public com- panies, but what about me?” Let’s apply this concept of “money in motion” on a more personal level through the following account of one of our clients.
2 x 2 x 2 x 2 = 16
On the other hand, applying some of the principles part of the time is much like adding two plus two plus two plus two. You will see some results, but the overall effectiveness will be much less potent.
2 + 2 + 2 + 2 = 8
When you apply all of the principles all of the time by controlling yourspending, eliminating debt, planning for the future, and reducing your taxes, you are in a position to put your money to work for you so that it can do more than one thing at the same time, creating opportunities to maximize your wealth to its fullest; this is what Principle 10’s “money in motion” is all about.
The basic concept behind Principle 10 is learning how to get your dollar to do more than one thing at the same time. class="fullpost"> So how can money be put in motion to create more money? Let’s take a look at banks as a prime example of Principle 10. Suppose you deposit $1,000 ina bank. The bank pays you, in turn, 4 percent interest on that amount. What does the bank then do with that $1,000? Under the rules of the banking system,it can go to the Federal Reserve and get an additional amount to go with it,$10,000 for example. It now has $11,000 it can lend out at a much higher rate of interest than it pays you. Of course this is a simplified example of a very complex system, but it gives you an idea of how money in motion creates more money. Banks follow the very strict federal regulations that govern the banking indus- try, along with their own operating protocols to get your dollars to do more than one thing for them at a time. Take a closer look at how banks put money in motion, continually turning your money over and over to make a profit.If the bank lends out your money as part of a car loan and gets 10 percent interest on the loan, it will make 6 percent profit (af- ter paying you 4 percent in- terest ) on that car loan, right? Now when the car dealer gets the loan pro- ceeds, he puts that money into his bank. While the car dealer lets the money sit until needed, that bank loans his money out on a home construction loan at a rate of 9 percent. Then, the contractor for that con- struction job puts the
money in his bank and before he makes payroll or buys lumber, his bank has already loaned that money for a computer at 14 percent. When the com- puter dealer puts the loan proceeds into the bank, the bank turns around and loans it out on a boat for 10 percent. The boat dealer then deposits that money in his bank, and that bank loans it out on a Visa card at 18 percent.From this example you can see that $1,000 will typically multiply within the banking system eight to 10 times; often this will occur very quickly, within hours or days. The banks benefit every time that money turns over, no mat- ter what the rate—18, 6, 10, 8, and even 4 percent. If you add up all the turns on that original $1,000 in a year, the banking system will have earned between 38 to 42 percent while you only earn 4. Who’s winning this game? The point is, that if like the bank, you can get your money to do more than one thing at a time, you can look forward to both safety for your money and higher rates of return. This idea is worth repeating:
If you can get your money to turn over, or in other words, do more than one thing at the same time, you can makea constant and higher rate of return on that money.
In the prior bank example, we showed how these institutions literally turn money over and over again. In this next example, we’ll demonstrate how more than just money can be put in motion to build more income and wealth. Take for instance a large public company that sells shares of stock. Let’s say this company builds roads and bridges and takes the money from the sold shares to buy road-graders and other machinery. It then uses this equipment over and over again on many jobs, “turning” it many times to make a profit. The equipment only needed to be purchased once, but is used many times over to create additional wealth. This company, rather than getting a set “rate of return” on their money like its share holders, actually uses its equipment to turn over a greater and more continual profit.“Okay,” you might be thinking, “that’s fine for banks and large public com- panies, but what about me?” Let’s apply this concept of “money in motion” on a more personal level through the following account of one of our clients.
My Vital health stat?
Today 12.05.2008 i have a helth check up. Done by somebody but not in medical line.
Weight: 58.5 Kg
Age: 49-59
Ages 52
Height: 158 cm
Gender :Male
Body fat: 21.7. Female should be 50%-55% Male should be 60%-65%
Viceral fat:11 bad [1-6 healthy, 7-8 alert, 9-12 bad, over 13 Alarming]
Muscle mass 43.4 so i got 6 standard [ 1-Hidden Obesse, 2-Obese,3-Solidly build, 4-Under exercise,5-Standard, 6-Standard mascular, 7-Thin, 8-Thin and nascular, 9-Very mascular
Physic rating: 5
Bone Mass: 2.4
Kcal: 1239
BMR:41
Weight: 58.5 Kg
Age: 49-59
Ages 52
Height: 158 cm
Gender :Male
Body fat: 21.7. Female should be 50%-55% Male should be 60%-65%
Viceral fat:11 bad [1-6 healthy, 7-8 alert, 9-12 bad, over 13 Alarming]
Muscle mass 43.4 so i got 6 standard [ 1-Hidden Obesse, 2-Obese,3-Solidly build, 4-Under exercise,5-Standard, 6-Standard mascular, 7-Thin, 8-Thin and nascular, 9-Very mascular
Physic rating: 5
Bone Mass: 2.4
Kcal: 1239
BMR:41
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Serabut yang tak dapat di urai oleh suara Suami.
Mungkin sudah bangun. Maaf kerana ganggu sekejap. Harap Ina banyak bersabar. I faham kalau I tak mau bercakap dlm keadaan serabut perut. I pun sebih suka begitu. I can imagine what U feel right now. Dalam keadaan serabut perut kita akan tension dan kekadang bercakap tidak mengikut otak.Dan boleh mencetuskan ketegangan.Boleh bergaduh tak tentu pasal. Sedih jugak kalau difikirkan dan di kenang-kenangkan suara I ni tak boleh membantu menguraikan serabut Ina. Tapi, I kena terimalah hakikat ini. Soon when u dah OK dan Tak serabut kita boleh bersembang lagi.Harap relax.Tabah. Berdoa. Kalau tidak bercakap dengan i membuatkan Ina rasa lebih selesa dan atau sekurang-kurangnya tidak menambahkan lagi serabut, Well it ok.
Saturday, May 10, 2008
Arab Saudi
Arab Saudi di Kuasai oleh keluarga diraja Saud.Kerabat mereka ini bertanggungjawab menghalau sharif Husin dari hijaz dengan bantuan inggeris. Mereka berpegangkuat kepada aliran wahabi yang kununnya sangat membenci Bidaah. Sikap mereka adalah suka meminta-minta bantuan kuasa asing untuk menghapuskan mnusuh-musuhnya.Inilah sikap tradisi mereka. Kalau dulu mereka meminta bantuan kafir inggeris, diakhir-akhir ini mereka suka meminta bantuan kafir Amerika.Kah! Kah! nampaknya mereka si arab-arab ini lupa nak menghukum apakah perbuatan mereka itu bidaah atau tidak.
Dan kalau diberi peluang lah mana kota yang nak di Bom dulu antara Tabuk dengan Israel, mana yang dipileh? Hah ha Tabuk duluu yang patut di Bom kerana disitu ramai laknat yang berperut busuk! Read here:
Newsbreaking and controversial -- an award-winning investigative journalist uncovers the thirty-year relationship between the Bush family and the House of Saud and explains its impact on American foreign policy, business, and national security.
House of Bush, House of Saud begins with a politically explosive question: How is it that two days after 9/11, when U.S. air traffic was tightly restricted, 140 Saudis, many immediate kin to Osama Bin Laden, were permitted to leave the country without being questioned by U.S. intelligence?
The answer lies in a hidden relationship that began in the 1970s, when the oil-rich House of Saud began courting American politicians in a bid for military protection, influence, and investment opportunity. With the Bush family, the Saudis hit a gusher -- direct access to presidents Reagan, George H.W. Bush, and George W. Bush. To trace the amazing weave of Saud-Bush connections, Unger interviewed three former directors of the CIA, top Saudi and Israeli intelligence officials, and more than one hundred other sources.His access to major players is unparalleled and often exclusive -- including executives at the Carlyle Group, the giant investment firm where the House of Bush and the House of Saud each has a major stake.
Like Bob Woodward's The Veil, Unger's House of Bush, House of Saud features unprecedented reportage; like Michael Moore's Dude, Where's My Country? Unger's book offers a political counter-narrative to official explanations; this deeply sourced account has already been cited by Senators Hillary Rodham Clinton and Charles Schumer, and sets 9/11, the two Gulf Wars, and the ongoing Middle East crisis in a new context: What really happened when America's most powerful political family became seduced by its Saudi counterparts?
-From muttawa blogspot
Dan kalau diberi peluang lah mana kota yang nak di Bom dulu antara Tabuk dengan Israel, mana yang dipileh? Hah ha Tabuk duluu yang patut di Bom kerana disitu ramai laknat yang berperut busuk! Read here:
Newsbreaking and controversial -- an award-winning investigative journalist uncovers the thirty-year relationship between the Bush family and the House of Saud and explains its impact on American foreign policy, business, and national security.
House of Bush, House of Saud begins with a politically explosive question: How is it that two days after 9/11, when U.S. air traffic was tightly restricted, 140 Saudis, many immediate kin to Osama Bin Laden, were permitted to leave the country without being questioned by U.S. intelligence?
The answer lies in a hidden relationship that began in the 1970s, when the oil-rich House of Saud began courting American politicians in a bid for military protection, influence, and investment opportunity. With the Bush family, the Saudis hit a gusher -- direct access to presidents Reagan, George H.W. Bush, and George W. Bush. To trace the amazing weave of Saud-Bush connections, Unger interviewed three former directors of the CIA, top Saudi and Israeli intelligence officials, and more than one hundred other sources.His access to major players is unparalleled and often exclusive -- including executives at the Carlyle Group, the giant investment firm where the House of Bush and the House of Saud each has a major stake.
Like Bob Woodward's The Veil, Unger's House of Bush, House of Saud features unprecedented reportage; like Michael Moore's Dude, Where's My Country? Unger's book offers a political counter-narrative to official explanations; this deeply sourced account has already been cited by Senators Hillary Rodham Clinton and Charles Schumer, and sets 9/11, the two Gulf Wars, and the ongoing Middle East crisis in a new context: What really happened when America's most powerful political family became seduced by its Saudi counterparts?
-From muttawa blogspot
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
126 Question For NWAFH but you need to answered.
Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Quality dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya?
- Demonstrates accuracy and thoroughness
Tunjukkan ketelitian dan saksama - Displays commitment to excellence
Tampilkan kesanggupan untuk keunggulan - Looks for ways to improve and promote quality
Mencari jalan dan cara untuk memperbaiki dan meningkatkan mutu - Applies feedback to improve performance
Mempergunkan maklumbals bagi memperbaiki kerja - Monitors own work to ensure quality
memonitor cara kerja untuk memastikan mutu
Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Quantity dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya?
- Meets productivity standards
menepati piawai produktivi - Completes work in timely manner
Melengkapkan atau menyelesaikan tugasan dan kerja tepat pada waktunya - Strives to increase productivity
Gigih dan Bekerja keras untuk meningkatkan produktiviti - Works quickly
Bekerja dengan cepat dan tangkas - Achieves established goals
Mencapai sasaran yang ditetap dengan mapan
Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Planning & Organization dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya
- Prioritizes and plans work activities
Memberi Prioritas dalam rencana , pekhidmatan dan aktiviti - Uses time efficiently
Gunakan waktu secara efisien - Plans for additional resources
Rencanakan untuk mendapat daya-sumber tambahan - Integrates changes smoothly
Integrasikan perubahan-perubahan dengan lancar - Sets goals and objectives
Objektif dan sasaran hasil di-set atau di tetapkan - Works in an organized manner
Bekerja dengan satu cara yang diorganisir dan tersusun kemas
Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Management dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya.
- Develops project plans
Mekembangkan dan membangun perencanaan projek - Coordinates projects
Koordinir dan menyelaras projek-projek - Communicates changes and progress
Menghebah serta Komunikasikan perubahan-perubahan dan kemajuan - Completes projects on time and budget
Mensiapkan proyek-proyek tepat waktu dan sesuai dengan anggaran - Manages project team activities
Atur-urus aktivitas projek berkumpulan
Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Job Knowledge dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya.
- Competent in required job skills and knowledge
Berkompetensi di dalam melaksanakan pekerjaan yang diperlukan berpengetahuan dan mahir - Exhibits ability to learn and apply new skills
Menunjukkan kebolehan utuk belajar dan mengunakan kemahiran baru - Keeps abreast of current developments
Mengambil tahu mengenai perkembangan semasa - Displays understanding of how job relates to others
Menunjukan kefahaman bagaimana kerja berkaitan dengan yang lain-lain - Uses resources effectively
Mengunakan sumber dengan berkesan
You as worker must be deem as cumtomer by Hospital management. And you as Nurses must be deem your patient as customer. Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Customer Service dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya.
- Displays courtesy and sensitivity
Memperlihatkan sensiviti dan keramahan - Manages difficult or emotional situations
Mengurus masaalah dan situsi emosional - Meets commitments
Memenuhi komitmen - Responds promptly to customer needs
Berindakbalas sewajarnya terhadap kehendak pengguna - Solicits customer feedback to improve service
mempergunakan teguran dan aduan pelanggan bagi memperbaiki perkhidmatan
Note: I heards a lot of ramblings from you especialy about Gaji related. please be precise when you answred this question. Dont feel sorry. You are paids according to job you have done. You are not social worker.You sacrife a lots for this gaji.
You are salesperson to the patients and your Hospital are salesperson to you as employee. Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Sales Skills dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya.
- Achieves sales goals
Mencapai sasaran jualan - Overcomes objections with persuasion and persistence
mengatasi bantahan dengan perundingan dan kerjasama - Initiates new contacts
Memulakan hubungan baru - Maintains customer satisfaction
Menjaga kepuasan pelanggan - Maintains records and promptly submits information
Menyimpan rekod dan melaporkan dalam waktu yang wajar
NWAFH terutama ER Adalah sebuah organisasi.Apakah yang berlaku di ER /Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Organization Support dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya.
- Follows policies and procedures
Mematuhi polisi dan peraturan - Completes administrative tasks correctly and on time
Menyelesaikan tugasan pentadbiran dengan betul dan tepat - Supports organizations goals and values
Menyokong matlamat dan nilai-nilai organisasi - Benefits organization through outside activities
Mengharumkan nama jabatan melalui kegiatan luar - Supports affirmative action and respects diversity
Menyokong tindakan yang diputus bersama dan menghormati kepelbagaian
Sebagai Nurse atau doktor kemahiran anlitikal adalah amat penting. Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Analytical Skills dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Adakah superior anda mempunyai analytical skill?Apa yang mereka sudah lakukan?
- Synthesizes complex or diverse information
Mempermudahkan maklumat yang sukar dan komplek - Collects and researches data
Mengumpul dan menyelidik data-data - Uses intuition and experience to complement data
Mengunakan ilham dan pengalaman bagi menyokong data - Identifies data relationships and dependencies
Megenal pasti perkaitan data-data dan dependencies - Designs work flows and procedures
Mereka bentuk peraturan dan aliran kerja
During your work in ER you meet a lot of problems. From anybodys. Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini adalah berkaitan dengan Problem Solving dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya. Bagaimana dengan cara mereka menyelesaikan masaalah?
- Indentifies problems in a timely manner
Mengenalpasti masalah dalam watu yang singkat dan sesuai - Gathers and analyzes information skillfully
Mengumpul maklumat dan menganalisa maklumat dengan mahir - Develops alternative solutions
Membangunkan penyelesaian alternatif - Resolves problems in early stages
Menyelesaikan masalah diperingkat awal - Works well in group problem solving situations
Bekerja dengan baik dalam situasi kumpulan bagi menyelesai masalah
Pengurusan kos adalah amat penting dalam segala pekerjaan. Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini adalah berkaitan dengan Cost Consciousness dan berkaitan dengan kerja. Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya. Bagaimana dengan cara mereka menyelesaikan masaalah?
- Works within approved bujet
Bekerja dalam lingkungan buget yang diluluskan - Conserves organizational resources
Menjimatkan sumber organisasi - Develops and implements cost saving measures
Membangunkan dan melaksanakan langkah penjimatan kos - Contributes to profits and revenue
Menyumbang kepada keuntungan dan pendapatan
Kepimpinan adalah segalanya dalam sebuah Hospital. Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Leadership dan berkaitan dengan interpersonal . Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh buruk dan baik mereka? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya?
- Exhibits confidence in self & others
Menunjukkan keyakinan pada diri dan orang lain - Inspires respect & trust
Mencetus rasa hormat dan kepercayaan - Reacts well under pressure
Bertindaj dengan baik semasa dalam tekanan - Shows courage to take action
Menunjukan galakan untuk bertindak - Motivates others to perform well
Memotivasi orang lain untuk bekerja cemerlang
Semangat kerjasama adalah penting dalam tugas. Adakah Pengurusan, Doktor, Nurses, Incharge, dan jabatan-jabatan lain mempunyai atau tidak mempunyai perkara dibawah ini? soalan ini berkaitan dengan Cooperation dan berkaitan dengan inter personal . Siapa terlibat? bagaimana contoh? Bila? Apa cadangan bagi mencapainya.
- Establishes and maintains effective relations
Memelihara dan membibitkan hubungan berkesan - Exhibits tact and consideration
Mempamirkan konsiderasi dan ketegasan - Displays positive outlook and pleasant manner
Menunjukan pandangan positif dan budi yang luhur - Offers assistance and support to co-workers
Menawarkan bantuan dan sokongan pada rakan setugas - Works cooperatively in group situations
Berjasama dalam situasi berkumpulan - Works actively to resolve conflicts
Bekerja kuat untuk menyelesaikan konflik
Job Related in NAWF: Nurse Stress?
Sources of stress in nursing The role of nursing is associated with multiple and conflicting demands imposed by nurse supervisors and managers, and by medical and administrative staff. Such a situation appears to lead to work overload and possible to role conflict. One form of such conflict often mentioned in surveys of nurses relates to the conflict inherent in the instrumental and goal-oriented demands of "getting the patient better" and those related to providing emotional support and relieving patient stress. Role conflict of this kind may be most obvious when dealing with patients who are critically ill and dying. Indeed, one of the areas of nursing that has attracted particular attention has been critical or intensive care nursing. Health care is also a sector which suffers a high rate of violent behaviour (see our pages on violence at work).
Many studies on stress in nursing have attempted to measure, or have speculated on, the effects of such stress on nurses’ health and well-being. There appears to be general agreement that the experience of work-related stress generally detracts from the quality of nurses’ working lives, increases minor psychiatric morbidity, and may contribute to some forms of physical illness, with particular reference to musculoskeletal problems, stress and depression.
Many studies on stress in nursing have attempted to measure, or have speculated on, the effects of such stress on nurses’ health and well-being. There appears to be general agreement that the experience of work-related stress generally detracts from the quality of nurses’ working lives, increases minor psychiatric morbidity, and may contribute to some forms of physical illness, with particular reference to musculoskeletal problems, stress and depression.
So What NWAFH do about stress prevention for nurses?
your guess as good as me!
Read more here:ILO and tell the managements what should they done.Give your feedback to the Director of Hospital.
Nurse creative thinking note
CREATIVE THINKING STRUCTURE
A Amass info
F Four way Thinking
D Definition
A Alternative
N Narrow down
C Choose/consequences
E Effect/act Upside Down esp people Problem Start with solution i.e. tsetse fly
AFARCE
A Alternatives
F Four way Thinking
R Recombine
C Choose which meet createria?
E Effect/Act
BRAINSTORM/FORCE QUANTITY
C cut Out A Add?
S Subtract
P Put To Other Use E Adapt?
R Rearrange
ADD CONDITIONS FOR SPARK RULES
no initial label
no rule except new perspective
ANALYTICALTHINKING PROBLEM SOLVING
DANCED
Definition question are tool for truth the 5 why system thinking
A Alternative
N Narrow down
C Choose/consequences
E Effect/act
DECIDING
A Assumption?
F For?
A Against?
N Now What?
MENTAL MODEL Form early persist tree
ATTIUDES
Persevere admit doubt fight for reason
checklist
A-assumption
B-big idea
C-calarity
D-depth
E-eyes ponit of view bias
F- fact or opinion or evidence
G- goal
I-implication / conssequences
A Amass info
F Four way Thinking
D Definition
A Alternative
N Narrow down
C Choose/consequences
E Effect/act Upside Down esp people Problem Start with solution i.e. tsetse fly
AFARCE
A Alternatives
F Four way Thinking
R Recombine
C Choose which meet createria?
E Effect/Act
BRAINSTORM/FORCE QUANTITY
C cut Out A Add?
S Subtract
P Put To Other Use E Adapt?
R Rearrange
ADD CONDITIONS FOR SPARK RULES
no initial label
no rule except new perspective
ANALYTICALTHINKING PROBLEM SOLVING
DANCED
Definition question are tool for truth the 5 why system thinking
A Alternative
N Narrow down
C Choose/consequences
E Effect/act
DECIDING
A Assumption?
F For?
A Against?
N Now What?
MENTAL MODEL Form early persist tree
ATTIUDES
Persevere admit doubt fight for reason
checklist
A-assumption
B-big idea
C-calarity
D-depth
E-eyes ponit of view bias
F- fact or opinion or evidence
G- goal
I-implication / conssequences
Monday, May 5, 2008
Good, bad and ugly of Selayang Hospital
I PEN this account to inform all those concerned of some major flaws in our public hospitals which must be corrected.
Let me declare, at the outset, that this is not a complaint. My intention of going public with this matter should be seen as a genuine attempt at assisting the Ministry of Health (MOH) to correct some nagging problems that have been plaguing our public hospitals.
This is a personal experience which took place in Selayang Hospital, a new hospital located 15km north of Kuala Lumpur. I will not mention the names of the surgeons involved out of respect for them here but will refer to them as Mr B and Mr A, as surgeons are professionally addressed as 'Mr'. (However, I must respectfully inform them that their names will be mentioned in my official report to Tan Sri Dr Ismail Merican, Director-General of Medical Services, Malaysia, who had requested me to furnish him details of what actually happened.)
This is my story.
My Aunt Lucy (my late father's youngest sister) was referred to Selayang Hospital by the Sarawak General Hospital in Kuching. She is 63 years old and was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on June 26 this year. It has been a long, agonising three-month wait for her to undergo an operation (a hepatobiliary procedure).
When she was finally informed by the Kuching Hospital in mid-September that an operation date has been scheduled for her in Selayang Hospital on Oct 3, she was elated but sadly, her joy was short-lived.
SEPT 30 (Sunday): She followed the Kuching hospital's instructions to the letter, flew to Kuala Lumpur on Sept 30 and was duly warded in Selayang Hospital the same evening. She was accompanied by my cousin, Alice, from Kuching.
In passing, let me mention some minor hiccups. The ambulance from Selayang Hospital which was supposed to turn up at the KLIA on Sept 30 to pick up my aunt never came. So, Alice called a cab instead. Arriving in Selayang Hospital at about 2.30pm, Alice later informed me that she was 'pushed here and there' for more than three hours before she finally managed to get our aunt warded at 6.00pm. I later learnt that this mismatch was due more to the fault of the Kuching side rather than Selayang's.
OCT 1 (Monday): The next day was a smooth, happy and stress-free one. My aunt was seen by the doctors and was duly taken for a CT scan. After that, she was specifically informed that the operation would be performed on Oct 3 (as scheduled). That night, my aunt was jovial and slept well. She felt very comfortable in the hospital - the second-class ward was air-cond with two attached bathrooms. She only had praises for this comfort provided by the hospital. I was also profoundly impressed with this ultra-modern Selayang Hospital and the facilities there. This was also my first visit to the hospital although I have been living in Kuala Lumpur for many years.
Read more here
"woman of the house". Saudi Arabia?
...Husband will open the door and welcome you. There may well be an incense burner in the doorway, as a mark of greeting. Waft the smoke over your hair and clothes. Remove your shoes (best to come in sandals).
Husband will lead your wife to a back room. That is all you are going to see of her, all evening.
Coffee or tea, and dates, will be ready on a table. You sit down (better on the floor), drink, eat, talk "guy talk". You may hear sounds of movement and rustlings from the next room.At a certain point, husband will lead you thru to the next room where, miraculously, food will be laid out. The dishes are probably set out on a plastic sheet on the carpet. Nothing, and I am being absolutely serious here, beats eating in a reclining position, perhaps leaning on a decorative camel saddle, with the food at floor level, and using your hand (right, not left, but don't ask why) to eat.
There will be enough to feed a small army. Arab hospitality demands that guests should never leave hungry. When you see all those dishes for just the two of you, including one with several small roast chickens, do not make the foolish assumption that this is the main course. PACE YOURSELF.
When you have assured your host that you have eaten all that you can manage from what is before you, he will remove many dishes. However he will return and replace them with an even larger selection of larger dishes. Carry on eating. Aren't you glad you are lying down? (It allows the stomach to distend more easily).
When you have eventually finished (NB If you are the "BellyBuster" champion at your local restaurant's "All you can eat Prime Rib Night", don't try and eat everything, they will only bring out more, so that you won't leave hungry) , you get up as best you can, and repair to the room you originally started out in, where miraculously fresh coffee will have appeared. Resume the horizontal once more. More "guy talk". There will be more sounds of rustling from next door.
As the evening draws to a close, husband will leave you and return from the back room with your wife. Say your farewells, put your shoes on, waft the incense, and out you go. Your wife will then inform you that your host also has a wife, who did all the cooking, and laid out and removed plates for the menfolk, not to mention coffee, as well as doing the same for herself and your wife. And you thought it was just a miracle.
[There is a slight variation to this routine, if the guests are male relatives of the husband. In that case the wife may emerge to pour coffee, but she will have a cloth draped over her head (rather like the cloth you would cover your parrot cage with, to shut it up) . Not that she's going to say anything, of course, she will just pour the coffee; the cloth is thin enough to allow her to see the spout and the cups, without curious male relatives being able to see her face].
The main point of that etiquette guide was just to show how little the typical Saudi wife is able to get out and about in her own house when the men are around, never mind get out and about in society at large. If you're going to be confined to a backroom or under a parrot-cloth, how the hell are you going to go out and organize a social revolution?
I wish to God I knew the answer, apart from collectively battering the men of Saudi Arabia over the head with a blunt instrument. First, the womenfolk need to get their attention. As every woman knows, there are two ways to get a man's attention:
1. Switch off the TV when his favorite sport is on.
2. Deny him his conjugal "rights".
from muttawa.blogspot
Husband will lead your wife to a back room. That is all you are going to see of her, all evening.
Coffee or tea, and dates, will be ready on a table. You sit down (better on the floor), drink, eat, talk "guy talk". You may hear sounds of movement and rustlings from the next room.At a certain point, husband will lead you thru to the next room where, miraculously, food will be laid out. The dishes are probably set out on a plastic sheet on the carpet. Nothing, and I am being absolutely serious here, beats eating in a reclining position, perhaps leaning on a decorative camel saddle, with the food at floor level, and using your hand (right, not left, but don't ask why) to eat.
There will be enough to feed a small army. Arab hospitality demands that guests should never leave hungry. When you see all those dishes for just the two of you, including one with several small roast chickens, do not make the foolish assumption that this is the main course. PACE YOURSELF.
When you have assured your host that you have eaten all that you can manage from what is before you, he will remove many dishes. However he will return and replace them with an even larger selection of larger dishes. Carry on eating. Aren't you glad you are lying down? (It allows the stomach to distend more easily).
When you have eventually finished (NB If you are the "BellyBuster" champion at your local restaurant's "All you can eat Prime Rib Night", don't try and eat everything, they will only bring out more, so that you won't leave hungry) , you get up as best you can, and repair to the room you originally started out in, where miraculously fresh coffee will have appeared. Resume the horizontal once more. More "guy talk". There will be more sounds of rustling from next door.
As the evening draws to a close, husband will leave you and return from the back room with your wife. Say your farewells, put your shoes on, waft the incense, and out you go. Your wife will then inform you that your host also has a wife, who did all the cooking, and laid out and removed plates for the menfolk, not to mention coffee, as well as doing the same for herself and your wife. And you thought it was just a miracle.
[There is a slight variation to this routine, if the guests are male relatives of the husband. In that case the wife may emerge to pour coffee, but she will have a cloth draped over her head (rather like the cloth you would cover your parrot cage with, to shut it up) . Not that she's going to say anything, of course, she will just pour the coffee; the cloth is thin enough to allow her to see the spout and the cups, without curious male relatives being able to see her face].
The main point of that etiquette guide was just to show how little the typical Saudi wife is able to get out and about in her own house when the men are around, never mind get out and about in society at large. If you're going to be confined to a backroom or under a parrot-cloth, how the hell are you going to go out and organize a social revolution?
I wish to God I knew the answer, apart from collectively battering the men of Saudi Arabia over the head with a blunt instrument. First, the womenfolk need to get their attention. As every woman knows, there are two ways to get a man's attention:
1. Switch off the TV when his favorite sport is on.
2. Deny him his conjugal "rights".
from muttawa.blogspot
Sunday, May 4, 2008
Antara mitos dan fakta berkerja di Saudi Arabia
Jangan terperangkap dalam dilemma. Lebih baik bertanya daripada rasa teraniaya.
Some Myths & Truths about working and living in Saudi Arabia.
Many are interested in working in Saudi Arabia for a variety of reasons; however, most have one thing in common TO SAVE MONEY. The fact that there are NO taxes deducted from a pay cheque, no rent at the end of each month, no hydro bill, no telephone line rental bill, no insurance bill etc ... allows you to do exactly that. In addition to saving money, there can be a multiple opportunities to enrich one's life. Read more here
Some Myths & Truths about working and living in Saudi Arabia.
Many are interested in working in Saudi Arabia for a variety of reasons; however, most have one thing in common TO SAVE MONEY. The fact that there are NO taxes deducted from a pay cheque, no rent at the end of each month, no hydro bill, no telephone line rental bill, no insurance bill etc ... allows you to do exactly that. In addition to saving money, there can be a multiple opportunities to enrich one's life. Read more here
Mewarnakan Rambut
Soalan: Suami saya meminta agar saya mewarnakan rambut. Dia sukakan warna berambut perang, sedangkan saya berambut hitam. Boleh saya mewarnakan rambut dengan pewarna yang ada di pasaran bagi memenuhi hasratnya?.Faridah, Shah Alam.
Jawapan:
Mewarna adalah diizinkan dalam Islam, bahkan RasuluLah pernah menggalakkannya bagi menyanggahi iktikad Yahudi dan Kristian pada zaman tersebut yang menganggap mewarna rambut yang beruban sesuatu yang salah dalam agama...baca jawapan selanjutnya disini: fatwa .
Jawapan:
Mewarna adalah diizinkan dalam Islam, bahkan RasuluLah pernah menggalakkannya bagi menyanggahi iktikad Yahudi dan Kristian pada zaman tersebut yang menganggap mewarna rambut yang beruban sesuatu yang salah dalam agama...baca jawapan selanjutnya disini: fatwa .
Ministry wants Local Women Going Abroad Alone to Get Family Consent
Gila! Apa pendapat ina? Ministry wants Local Women Going Abroad Alone to Get Family Consent. marina Mahathir have are arguments. Read more here
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Nurse Emergency e-book
1 CURRENT Critical Care Diagnosis & Treatment
2 ABC of Resuscitation
3 Principles of Critical Care, Third Edition
4 Irwin and Rippe\'s Intensive Care Medicine
5 Tropical and Parasitic Infections in the Intensive Care Unit (Perspectives onCritical Care Infectious Diseases
6 Sleep and Sedation in Critical Care, An Issue of Critical Care Nursing Clinics
7 Oxford Handbook of Critical Care: Book and PDA Pack (Oxford Handbook
8 Critical Care Focus
9: Gut [ILLUSTRATED9 Respiratory Management in Critical Care10 Intensive Care Medicine in
10 Years (Update in Intensive Care and EmergencyMedicine
11 Textbook of Neuroanaesthesia and Critical Care
12 Surgical Critical Care, Second Edition
13 Recent Advances in Anaesthesia and Intensive Care (Recent Advances
14 Current Opinion in Critical Care
15 Intensive and Critical Care Medicine: Reflections, Recommendations andPerspectives
16 European Resuscitation Council Guidelines
17 Pharmacotherapy, an Issue of Critical Care Clinics
18 Radiology for Anaesthesia and Intensive Care General Emergency Medicine--9_eBooksÙƒ
ود:19 Currnet Emergency Diagnosis and Treatment
20 First Aid for the Emergency Medicine Clerkship 2/e 2006
21 Atlas of Emergency Medicine, 2nd
22 core Topics in Airway Management
23 Oxford Handbook of Acute Medicine for PDA (Oxford Handbooks Series
24 The Gist of Emergency Medicine
25 Hospital-based Emergency Care: At the Breaking Point (Future of Emergency26 Emergency Medical Services
27 Emergency Medicine Clinics of North America 2006
28 Pediatric Emergency--8_eBooksكود:28 Essentials of Paediatric Intensive Care
29 Resuscitation videos FOR PEDIATRICS
30 Pediatric Emergency Manual
31 Pediatric Emergencies Part II, An Issue of Pediatric Clinics 2006
32 Emergency Care for Children: Growing Pains
33 Pocket Emergency Paediatric Care: A Practical Guide to the Diagnosis andManagement of Paediatric Emergencies in Hospitals and Other HealthcareFacilities Worldwide
34 Advanced Paediatric Life Support, 3rd Edition
35 Emergency Pediatrics: A Guide to Ambulatory Care 6/e 2003_Practical Emergency Medicine--8_eBooks
كود:36 Acute Medical Emergencies: The Practical Approach
37 An Introduction to Clinical Emergency Medicine :Guide for Practitioners in theEmergency Department
38 Protecting Emergency Responders, Volume 1: Lessons Learned FromTerrorists Attacks
39 Protecting Emergency Responders, Volume 3
40 Roberts & Hedges Clinical Procedures in Emergency Medicine 4th Edn
41 Principles and Practice of Emergency Medicine
42 Ditch Medicine : Advanced Field Procedures For Emergencies
43 The Clinical Practice of Emergency Medicine_Radiologic Emergency--5_eBooksÙƒ
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45 Emergency Neuroradiology
46 Emergency Radiology
47 A -Z Emergency Radiology
48 Radiology for Anaesthesia and Intensive Care___________________Specific_ Emergency Medicine--10_eBooks
كود:49 Cardiovascular Emergencies
50 Emergency Asthma (Clinical Allergy and Immunology
51 Management of Severe Malaria
52 Emerging Viruses in Human Populations, Volume 16
53 Emergencies in Diabetes: Diagnosis, Management and Prevention
54 Geriatric Emergency Medicine: An Issue of Emergency Medicine Clinics
55 Communicable Disease Control in Emergencies: A Field Manual
56 Urological Emergencies in Clinical Practice
57 Emerging Pathologies in Cardiology: Proceedings of the MediterraneanCardiology Meeting 2005
58 Goldfrank\'s Toxicologic Emergencies, 8/e 2006_Trauma Care--3_eBooks
كود:59 Guidelines for Essential Trauma Care
60 European Resuscitation Council Guidelines
61 Trauma, Volume 1: Emergency Resuscitation, Perioperative Anesthesia____________________Emergency Surgery
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2 ABC of Resuscitation
3 Principles of Critical Care, Third Edition
4 Irwin and Rippe\'s Intensive Care Medicine
5 Tropical and Parasitic Infections in the Intensive Care Unit (Perspectives onCritical Care Infectious Diseases
6 Sleep and Sedation in Critical Care, An Issue of Critical Care Nursing Clinics
7 Oxford Handbook of Critical Care: Book and PDA Pack (Oxford Handbook
8 Critical Care Focus
9: Gut [ILLUSTRATED9 Respiratory Management in Critical Care10 Intensive Care Medicine in
10 Years (Update in Intensive Care and EmergencyMedicine
11 Textbook of Neuroanaesthesia and Critical Care
12 Surgical Critical Care, Second Edition
13 Recent Advances in Anaesthesia and Intensive Care (Recent Advances
14 Current Opinion in Critical Care
15 Intensive and Critical Care Medicine: Reflections, Recommendations andPerspectives
16 European Resuscitation Council Guidelines
17 Pharmacotherapy, an Issue of Critical Care Clinics
18 Radiology for Anaesthesia and Intensive Care General Emergency Medicine--9_eBooksÙƒ
ود:19 Currnet Emergency Diagnosis and Treatment
20 First Aid for the Emergency Medicine Clerkship 2/e 2006
21 Atlas of Emergency Medicine, 2nd
22 core Topics in Airway Management
23 Oxford Handbook of Acute Medicine for PDA (Oxford Handbooks Series
24 The Gist of Emergency Medicine
25 Hospital-based Emergency Care: At the Breaking Point (Future of Emergency26 Emergency Medical Services
27 Emergency Medicine Clinics of North America 2006
28 Pediatric Emergency--8_eBooksكود:28 Essentials of Paediatric Intensive Care
29 Resuscitation videos FOR PEDIATRICS
30 Pediatric Emergency Manual
31 Pediatric Emergencies Part II, An Issue of Pediatric Clinics 2006
32 Emergency Care for Children: Growing Pains
33 Pocket Emergency Paediatric Care: A Practical Guide to the Diagnosis andManagement of Paediatric Emergencies in Hospitals and Other HealthcareFacilities Worldwide
34 Advanced Paediatric Life Support, 3rd Edition
35 Emergency Pediatrics: A Guide to Ambulatory Care 6/e 2003_Practical Emergency Medicine--8_eBooks
كود:36 Acute Medical Emergencies: The Practical Approach
37 An Introduction to Clinical Emergency Medicine :Guide for Practitioners in theEmergency Department
38 Protecting Emergency Responders, Volume 1: Lessons Learned FromTerrorists Attacks
39 Protecting Emergency Responders, Volume 3
40 Roberts & Hedges Clinical Procedures in Emergency Medicine 4th Edn
41 Principles and Practice of Emergency Medicine
42 Ditch Medicine : Advanced Field Procedures For Emergencies
43 The Clinical Practice of Emergency Medicine_Radiologic Emergency--5_eBooksÙƒ
ود:44 Emergency Radiology: Imaging and Intervention
45 Emergency Neuroradiology
46 Emergency Radiology
47 A -Z Emergency Radiology
48 Radiology for Anaesthesia and Intensive Care___________________Specific_ Emergency Medicine--10_eBooks
كود:49 Cardiovascular Emergencies
50 Emergency Asthma (Clinical Allergy and Immunology
51 Management of Severe Malaria
52 Emerging Viruses in Human Populations, Volume 16
53 Emergencies in Diabetes: Diagnosis, Management and Prevention
54 Geriatric Emergency Medicine: An Issue of Emergency Medicine Clinics
55 Communicable Disease Control in Emergencies: A Field Manual
56 Urological Emergencies in Clinical Practice
57 Emerging Pathologies in Cardiology: Proceedings of the MediterraneanCardiology Meeting 2005
58 Goldfrank\'s Toxicologic Emergencies, 8/e 2006_Trauma Care--3_eBooks
كود:59 Guidelines for Essential Trauma Care
60 European Resuscitation Council Guidelines
61 Trauma, Volume 1: Emergency Resuscitation, Perioperative Anesthesia____________________Emergency Surgery
كود:62 Surgical Critical Care, Second Edition
63 Emergency War Surgery: Third United States Revision, 2004 (Textbooks ofMilitary Medicine)
Links:
http://rapidshare.com/files/34019887/Emergency_Medicine--63_eBooks.rar
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Basic Nursing note
prt2
During rising temperature- Heat emission prevails above heat production- Heat emission it is equal heat production+ Heat production prevails above heat emission- Heat emission is not present- Heat production is not present?During decreasing temperature+Hear emission prevails above heat production- Hear emission it is equal heat production- Heat production prevails above hear emission- Hear emission is not present- Heat production is not present?
Physiotherapy it is- Treatment by leeches- Measurement of temperature+ Influence on an organism with the medical purpose by physical factors- Hygienic rules- There is no correct variant?External application of water with the medical and preventive purpose is- Hydrotherapy+ Balneotherapy- Hyrodotherapy- Thermotherapy- Oxygentherapy?Medical baths divide on- Aromatic- Medicinal- Mineral- Hydrosulphuric, carbon+ All listed?Allowable temperature of a hot bath is- 36-38- 38-40+ 40-42- 42-44- 44-46?
Duration of warm and hot baths is- 5 minutes+ 10-15 minutes- 15-20 minutes- 5-10 minutes- 10 minutes?Mustard plasters apply at- Cardiovascular diseases+ Diseases of respiratory ways- Intestinal diseases- Diabetes mellitus- All listed?
Mustard plasters it is the sheets of a dense paper covered by+ Mustard- Pepper- Furacilin- Finalgon- There is no right answer?Mustard plasters hold on a body for- 5-10 minutes- Everyone 5 hours?
Drawing up of the menu, the control over quality of products is carried out by:- The cook- A nurseа- The doctor- intern+ The doctor- dietician- There is no right answer?
The temperature of hot dishes should be:- 50-60+57-62- 52-67- 45-56-60-70?Methods of artificial feeding- By means of a tube- Enema- Intravenously+ All listed?Temperature of a healthy person is+ 37- 38- 37,2- 36,6- 36,37?
Body temperature at patients should be measured- Once a day+ 2 times per day- 3 times per day- 4 times-5 times?
How many minutes after an establishment of the thermometer is it possible to take it- In 5 minutes- In 6 minutes- In 8 minutes+ In 10 minutes- In 15 minutes?
Data of temperature will be put dawn originally in+ post temperature sheet- The alphabetic book- A temperature sheet- An out-patient card- A procedural sheet?Rise in temperature of a body, js a protective reaction of an organism on pathogenic agents is- Heat- An infection- Cold+ A fever- There is no correct variant?
At a constant fever of fluctuation of temperature is in limits- More than 3 degrees- 3-5 degrees+ 1degree- 5-6 degrees- 2-3 degrees?- 15-20 minutes- 20-25 minutes- 10-15 minutes+ 5-15 minutes?
It is impossible to put of cupping glass at- A bleeding- Tuberculosis of the lungs- Diseases of skin- Fever+ All listed?Do not put of cupping glass on area- The hearts- The spine- The breast+ All listed?For avoiding a burn at long application of a heater on skin should render- Finalgon- Vishnevsky's liniment+ Vaseline- Furacilin- There is no right answer?Kinds of compresses- Dry- Wet- General- Local+ All listed?
Wet compresses can be- Cold- Hot- Warming- Medicinal+ All listed?
Hot compress leave on- 5-6 hours- 3-4 hours- 6-8 hours+ 8-10 hours- 10-12 hours?
Hyrodotherapy it is- Treatment by water+ Treatment by leeches- Hygienic baths- Surgical operation- There is no right answer?
Indications for hyrodotherapy are+ A stenocardia- A hypotension- An allergic condition- An anemia- Treatment by anticoagulants
During rising temperature- Heat emission prevails above heat production- Heat emission it is equal heat production+ Heat production prevails above heat emission- Heat emission is not present- Heat production is not present?During decreasing temperature+Hear emission prevails above heat production- Hear emission it is equal heat production- Heat production prevails above hear emission- Hear emission is not present- Heat production is not present?
Physiotherapy it is- Treatment by leeches- Measurement of temperature+ Influence on an organism with the medical purpose by physical factors- Hygienic rules- There is no correct variant?External application of water with the medical and preventive purpose is- Hydrotherapy+ Balneotherapy- Hyrodotherapy- Thermotherapy- Oxygentherapy?Medical baths divide on- Aromatic- Medicinal- Mineral- Hydrosulphuric, carbon+ All listed?Allowable temperature of a hot bath is- 36-38- 38-40+ 40-42- 42-44- 44-46?
Duration of warm and hot baths is- 5 minutes+ 10-15 minutes- 15-20 minutes- 5-10 minutes- 10 minutes?Mustard plasters apply at- Cardiovascular diseases+ Diseases of respiratory ways- Intestinal diseases- Diabetes mellitus- All listed?
Mustard plasters it is the sheets of a dense paper covered by+ Mustard- Pepper- Furacilin- Finalgon- There is no right answer?Mustard plasters hold on a body for- 5-10 minutes- Everyone 5 hours?
Drawing up of the menu, the control over quality of products is carried out by:- The cook- A nurseа- The doctor- intern+ The doctor- dietician- There is no right answer?
The temperature of hot dishes should be:- 50-60+57-62- 52-67- 45-56-60-70?Methods of artificial feeding- By means of a tube- Enema- Intravenously+ All listed?Temperature of a healthy person is+ 37- 38- 37,2- 36,6- 36,37?
Body temperature at patients should be measured- Once a day+ 2 times per day- 3 times per day- 4 times-5 times?
How many minutes after an establishment of the thermometer is it possible to take it- In 5 minutes- In 6 minutes- In 8 minutes+ In 10 minutes- In 15 minutes?
Data of temperature will be put dawn originally in+ post temperature sheet- The alphabetic book- A temperature sheet- An out-patient card- A procedural sheet?Rise in temperature of a body, js a protective reaction of an organism on pathogenic agents is- Heat- An infection- Cold+ A fever- There is no correct variant?
At a constant fever of fluctuation of temperature is in limits- More than 3 degrees- 3-5 degrees+ 1degree- 5-6 degrees- 2-3 degrees?- 15-20 minutes- 20-25 minutes- 10-15 minutes+ 5-15 minutes?
It is impossible to put of cupping glass at- A bleeding- Tuberculosis of the lungs- Diseases of skin- Fever+ All listed?Do not put of cupping glass on area- The hearts- The spine- The breast+ All listed?For avoiding a burn at long application of a heater on skin should render- Finalgon- Vishnevsky's liniment+ Vaseline- Furacilin- There is no right answer?Kinds of compresses- Dry- Wet- General- Local+ All listed?
Wet compresses can be- Cold- Hot- Warming- Medicinal+ All listed?
Hot compress leave on- 5-6 hours- 3-4 hours- 6-8 hours+ 8-10 hours- 10-12 hours?
Hyrodotherapy it is- Treatment by water+ Treatment by leeches- Hygienic baths- Surgical operation- There is no right answer?
Indications for hyrodotherapy are+ A stenocardia- A hypotension- An allergic condition- An anemia- Treatment by anticoagulants
Basic Nursing Note
Prt 1.
Washing of the eyes make with the help:
+ Special glass- Esmarch’s mug- Plugs- Napkins- All listed?
Principal value in power maintenance of an organism has:- Proteins- Fats- Carbohydrates+ All listed?
Indications of diet №1 are:- Diabetes mellitus- Diseases of intestines- Nephritis+ Gastric ulcers and a duodenal ulcer- A diathesis?
Diet №2 excludes:+ Leguminous and mushrooms- White yesterday's bread- Soups- A fish- Vegetables?
Indications of diet №3 are:- Gastritis- Nephritis- Diabetes mellitus- A hepatitis+ Diseases of intestines?
At acute enteritis from a diet excludes:- Milk- Vegetative клетчатка- Leguminous- A pickles+ All listed?
Limitation of power value of a diet due to carbohydrates and fats, increase vegetative cellulosa. This diet is recommended at:- Nephritis- Gastritis+ Obesity- A diathesis- Disease of intestines?
At disease of cardiovascular system are excluded:+ A fish, a liver, chocolate- Bread grey, not rich cookies- Soups, an albuminous omelet- Fruit, berries- Vegetable russian salads and salads?
Regularity of food reception after operation is:- Everyone 4 hours+ Everyone 2 hours- Each hour- Everyone 3 hours?
Washing of the eyes make with the help:
+ Special glass- Esmarch’s mug- Plugs- Napkins- All listed?
Principal value in power maintenance of an organism has:- Proteins- Fats- Carbohydrates+ All listed?
Indications of diet №1 are:- Diabetes mellitus- Diseases of intestines- Nephritis+ Gastric ulcers and a duodenal ulcer- A diathesis?
Diet №2 excludes:+ Leguminous and mushrooms- White yesterday's bread- Soups- A fish- Vegetables?
Indications of diet №3 are:- Gastritis- Nephritis- Diabetes mellitus- A hepatitis+ Diseases of intestines?
At acute enteritis from a diet excludes:- Milk- Vegetative клетчатка- Leguminous- A pickles+ All listed?
Limitation of power value of a diet due to carbohydrates and fats, increase vegetative cellulosa. This diet is recommended at:- Nephritis- Gastritis+ Obesity- A diathesis- Disease of intestines?
At disease of cardiovascular system are excluded:+ A fish, a liver, chocolate- Bread grey, not rich cookies- Soups, an albuminous omelet- Fruit, berries- Vegetable russian salads and salads?
Regularity of food reception after operation is:- Everyone 4 hours+ Everyone 2 hours- Each hour- Everyone 3 hours?
check list
Use the list below as a check list, see what you already do (may Allah blessyou for it & grant you jannah) and the things we don't do – you're stillalive to read this message and try and do them so just remember those bitsfor next time.
Starts with… "A wife…"
1. is truthful
2. does not cheat, deceive or stab in the back
3. is not envious
4. is sincere
5. keeps his promises
6. has a good attitude towards others and treats them well
7. is characterised by shyness
8. is gentle towards people
9. is compassionate and merciful
10. is tolerant and forgiving
11. is easy-going in his business dealings
12. is of cheerful countenance (smiling is charity remember)
13. has a sense of humour
14. is patient
15. avoids cursing and foul language
16. does not falsely accuse anyone of fisq or kufr
17. is modest & discreet
18. does not interfere in that which does not concern him
19. refrains from backbiting and slander
20. avoids giving false statements
21. avoids suspicion
22. keeps secrets
23. does not converse privately with another person when there is athird person present
24. is not arrogant or proud
25. is humble and modest
26. does not make fun of anyone
27. respects elders and distinguished people
28. mixes with people of noble character
29. strives for peoples benefit and seeks to protect them from harm
30. strives to reconcile between Muslims
31. calls people to the truth
32. enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil
33. is wise and eloquent in his da'wah
34. is not a hypocrite
35. does not show off or boast
36. is straightforward and consistent in his adherence to the truth
37. visits the sick
38. attends funerals
39. repays favours and is grateful for them
40. mixes with people and puts up with their insults
41. tries to make people happy
42. guides others to righteous deeds
43. is easy on people, not hard
44. is fair in his judgement of people
45. does not oppress or mistreat others
46. loves noble things and always aims high
47. speech is not exaggerated or affected
48. does not rejoice in the misfortunes of others
49. is generous
50. does not remind the beneficiaries of his charity
51. is hospitable
52. prefers others to himself
53. helps to alleviate the burden of the debtor
54. is proud and does not beg
55. is friendly and likeable
56. checks his customs and habits against Islamic standards
57. follows Islamic manners in the way he eats and drinks
58. spreads the greeting of Salaam to his Muslim Brothers and Sisters
59. does not enter a house other than his own without permission
60. sits wherever he finds room in a gathering
61. avoids yawning in a gathering as much as he can
62. follows the Islamic etiquette when he sneezes
63. does not look into other peoples houses
64. does not imitate women
Good list don't you think?
May Allah be with you through every step of your journey through life .WasSalaam.
Starts with… "A wife…"
1. is truthful
2. does not cheat, deceive or stab in the back
3. is not envious
4. is sincere
5. keeps his promises
6. has a good attitude towards others and treats them well
7. is characterised by shyness
8. is gentle towards people
9. is compassionate and merciful
10. is tolerant and forgiving
11. is easy-going in his business dealings
12. is of cheerful countenance (smiling is charity remember)
13. has a sense of humour
14. is patient
15. avoids cursing and foul language
16. does not falsely accuse anyone of fisq or kufr
17. is modest & discreet
18. does not interfere in that which does not concern him
19. refrains from backbiting and slander
20. avoids giving false statements
21. avoids suspicion
22. keeps secrets
23. does not converse privately with another person when there is athird person present
24. is not arrogant or proud
25. is humble and modest
26. does not make fun of anyone
27. respects elders and distinguished people
28. mixes with people of noble character
29. strives for peoples benefit and seeks to protect them from harm
30. strives to reconcile between Muslims
31. calls people to the truth
32. enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil
33. is wise and eloquent in his da'wah
34. is not a hypocrite
35. does not show off or boast
36. is straightforward and consistent in his adherence to the truth
37. visits the sick
38. attends funerals
39. repays favours and is grateful for them
40. mixes with people and puts up with their insults
41. tries to make people happy
42. guides others to righteous deeds
43. is easy on people, not hard
44. is fair in his judgement of people
45. does not oppress or mistreat others
46. loves noble things and always aims high
47. speech is not exaggerated or affected
48. does not rejoice in the misfortunes of others
49. is generous
50. does not remind the beneficiaries of his charity
51. is hospitable
52. prefers others to himself
53. helps to alleviate the burden of the debtor
54. is proud and does not beg
55. is friendly and likeable
56. checks his customs and habits against Islamic standards
57. follows Islamic manners in the way he eats and drinks
58. spreads the greeting of Salaam to his Muslim Brothers and Sisters
59. does not enter a house other than his own without permission
60. sits wherever he finds room in a gathering
61. avoids yawning in a gathering as much as he can
62. follows the Islamic etiquette when he sneezes
63. does not look into other peoples houses
64. does not imitate women
Good list don't you think?
May Allah be with you through every step of your journey through life .WasSalaam.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
KAU ISTERI, AKU SUAMI
Susah sgt ker nak jadi wanita yg baik??? dan Banyak sgt ker amanah Tuhan yg perlu lelaki pikul??? jawapannyer, mmg tak susah dan mmg banyk, Bagaimana???, bacelah dan pandai2lah cari jawapannyer:-
1 lelaki bujang kena tanggong dosa sendiri apabila sudah baligh manakala dosa gadis bujang ditanggung oleh bapanya.
2 lelaki berkahwin kena tanggong dosa sendiri, dosa isteri, dosa anak perempuan yang belum berkahwin dan dosa anak lelaki yang belum baligh. BERATKAN !
3 Hukum menjelaskan anak lelaki kena bertanggong-jawab keatas ibunya dan sekiranya dia tidak menjalankan tanggong-jawabnya maka dosa baginya terutama anak lelaki yang tua, menakala perempuan tidak, perempuan hanya perlu taat kepada suaminya. Isteri berbuat baik pahala dapat kepadanya kalau buat tak baik dosanya ditanggong oleh suaminya.BERATKAN !
4 Suami kena bagi nafkah pada isteri, ini wajib tapi isteri tidak.Walaupun begitu isteri boleh membantu.Haram bagi suami bertanya pendapatan isteri lebih-lebih lagi menggunakan pendapatan isteri tanpa izin ini.
Banyak lagi lelaki lebih-lebih lagi yang bergelar suami perlu tanggong. Kalau nak dibayangkan beratnya dosa-dosa yang ditanggongnya seperti gunung dengan semut. Itu sebab nya mengikut kajian nyawa orang perempuan lebih panjang daripada lelaki. Lelaki mati cepat kerana tak larat dengan beratnya dosa-dosa yang ditanggong.
Tetapi orang lelaki ada keistimewaannya yang dianugrah oelh Allah SWT. Ini orang lelaki kena tahu, kalau tak tahu kena jadi perempuan. Begitulah kira-kiranya. Wanita
1 - wanita auratnya lebih susah dijaga berbanding lelaki.
2 - wanita perlu meminta izin dari suaminya apabila mahu keluar rumah tetapi tidak sbaliknya.
3 - wanita saksinya kurang berbanding lelaki.
4 - wanita menerima pusaka kurang dari lelaki.
5 - wanita perlu menghadapi kesusahan mengandung dan melahirkan anak.
6 - wanita wajib taat kpd suaminya.
7 - talak terletak di tgn suami dan bukan isteri.
8 - wanita kurang dlm beribadat kerana masalah haid dan nifas yg tak ada pada lelaki. Pernahkah kita lihat sebaliknya?? Benda yg mahal harganya akan dijaga dan dibelai serta disimpan di tempat yg tersorok dan selamat. Sudah pasti intan permata tidak akan dibiar bersepah sepah bukan? itulah bandingannya dgn seorg wanita.
Wanita perlu taat kpd suami tetapi lelaki wajib taat kepada ibunya 3 kali lebih utama dari bapanya. Bukankah ibu adalah seorang wanita?
Wanita menerima pusaka kurang dari lelaki tetapi harta itu menjadi milik peribadinya dan tidak perlu diserahkan kepada suaminya, manakala lelaki menerima pusaka perlu menggunakan hartanya utk menyara isteri dan anak anak.
Wanita perlu bersusah payah mengandung dan melahirkan anak, tetapi setiap saat dia didoakan oleh segala haiwan,malaikat dan seluruh makhluk ALLAH di mukabumi ini, dan matinya jika kerana melahirkan adalah syahid kecil. Manakala dosanya diampun ALLAH (dosa kecil).
Di akhirat kelak, seorang lelaki akan dipertanggungjawabkan terhadap 4 wanita ini: Isterinya, ibunya, anak perempuannya dan saudara perempuannya.
Manakala seorang wanita pula, tanggungjawab terhadapnya ditanggung oleh 4 org lelaki ini: suaminya, ayahnya, anak lelakinya dan saudara lelakinya.
Seorang wanita boleh memasuki pintu Syurga melalui mana mana pintu Syurga yg disukainya cukup dgn 4 syarat shj: Sembahyang 5 waktu, puasa di bulan Ramadhan, taat suaminya dan menjaga kehormatannya.
Seorg lelaki perlu pergi berjihad fisabilillah tetapi wanita jika taat akan suaminya serta menunaikan tanggungjawabnya kepada ALLAH akan turut menerima pahala seperti pahala org pergi berperang fisabilillah tanpa perlu mengangkat senjata. MasyaALLAH... sayangnya ALLAH pada wanita .... kan
WALLAHUA'LAM
1 lelaki bujang kena tanggong dosa sendiri apabila sudah baligh manakala dosa gadis bujang ditanggung oleh bapanya.
2 lelaki berkahwin kena tanggong dosa sendiri, dosa isteri, dosa anak perempuan yang belum berkahwin dan dosa anak lelaki yang belum baligh. BERATKAN !
3 Hukum menjelaskan anak lelaki kena bertanggong-jawab keatas ibunya dan sekiranya dia tidak menjalankan tanggong-jawabnya maka dosa baginya terutama anak lelaki yang tua, menakala perempuan tidak, perempuan hanya perlu taat kepada suaminya. Isteri berbuat baik pahala dapat kepadanya kalau buat tak baik dosanya ditanggong oleh suaminya.BERATKAN !
4 Suami kena bagi nafkah pada isteri, ini wajib tapi isteri tidak.Walaupun begitu isteri boleh membantu.Haram bagi suami bertanya pendapatan isteri lebih-lebih lagi menggunakan pendapatan isteri tanpa izin ini.
Banyak lagi lelaki lebih-lebih lagi yang bergelar suami perlu tanggong. Kalau nak dibayangkan beratnya dosa-dosa yang ditanggongnya seperti gunung dengan semut. Itu sebab nya mengikut kajian nyawa orang perempuan lebih panjang daripada lelaki. Lelaki mati cepat kerana tak larat dengan beratnya dosa-dosa yang ditanggong.
Tetapi orang lelaki ada keistimewaannya yang dianugrah oelh Allah SWT. Ini orang lelaki kena tahu, kalau tak tahu kena jadi perempuan. Begitulah kira-kiranya. Wanita
1 - wanita auratnya lebih susah dijaga berbanding lelaki.
2 - wanita perlu meminta izin dari suaminya apabila mahu keluar rumah tetapi tidak sbaliknya.
3 - wanita saksinya kurang berbanding lelaki.
4 - wanita menerima pusaka kurang dari lelaki.
5 - wanita perlu menghadapi kesusahan mengandung dan melahirkan anak.
6 - wanita wajib taat kpd suaminya.
7 - talak terletak di tgn suami dan bukan isteri.
8 - wanita kurang dlm beribadat kerana masalah haid dan nifas yg tak ada pada lelaki. Pernahkah kita lihat sebaliknya?? Benda yg mahal harganya akan dijaga dan dibelai serta disimpan di tempat yg tersorok dan selamat. Sudah pasti intan permata tidak akan dibiar bersepah sepah bukan? itulah bandingannya dgn seorg wanita.
Wanita perlu taat kpd suami tetapi lelaki wajib taat kepada ibunya 3 kali lebih utama dari bapanya. Bukankah ibu adalah seorang wanita?
Wanita menerima pusaka kurang dari lelaki tetapi harta itu menjadi milik peribadinya dan tidak perlu diserahkan kepada suaminya, manakala lelaki menerima pusaka perlu menggunakan hartanya utk menyara isteri dan anak anak.
Wanita perlu bersusah payah mengandung dan melahirkan anak, tetapi setiap saat dia didoakan oleh segala haiwan,malaikat dan seluruh makhluk ALLAH di mukabumi ini, dan matinya jika kerana melahirkan adalah syahid kecil. Manakala dosanya diampun ALLAH (dosa kecil).
Di akhirat kelak, seorang lelaki akan dipertanggungjawabkan terhadap 4 wanita ini: Isterinya, ibunya, anak perempuannya dan saudara perempuannya.
Manakala seorang wanita pula, tanggungjawab terhadapnya ditanggung oleh 4 org lelaki ini: suaminya, ayahnya, anak lelakinya dan saudara lelakinya.
Seorang wanita boleh memasuki pintu Syurga melalui mana mana pintu Syurga yg disukainya cukup dgn 4 syarat shj: Sembahyang 5 waktu, puasa di bulan Ramadhan, taat suaminya dan menjaga kehormatannya.
Seorg lelaki perlu pergi berjihad fisabilillah tetapi wanita jika taat akan suaminya serta menunaikan tanggungjawabnya kepada ALLAH akan turut menerima pahala seperti pahala org pergi berperang fisabilillah tanpa perlu mengangkat senjata. MasyaALLAH... sayangnya ALLAH pada wanita .... kan
WALLAHUA'LAM
Friday, April 25, 2008
I rasa mungkin u dah buat decision to our relation?
Ur SMS:
I rasa mungkin u dah buat decision to our relation. so as u wont pick up my call, it looks like the answer 4 our relationship. so, as conclusion, i,ll not call u till u make up ur mind. Im dare with ur judgement.tq.
My sms as Reply:
Bayangkanlah jika Ina di Uji Allah dengan penyakit kritikal, seperti paralyse atau buta siapakah yang akan bertanggungjawab jika bukan suami?
Mungkin sewaktu Ina ditimpa kesusahan selama ini, terutamanya masuk lokap di Arab saya langsung tidak berguna dan tidak membantu sedikitpun.
Ketika keluargamu didalam kedukacitaan, suamimu yang sering engkau kutuk-kutuk ini tidak bersusah payah untuk membantu? Jadi, janganlah diungkit pasal tak bagi duit pada Ina semasa Ina di Hospital menunggu arwah ayahandamu dulu.
Kita hidup dalam dua hukum, iaitu hukum Alam dan hukum takdir.Jika berlaku apa-apa takdir buruk seperti hilang upaya atau lumpuh ke atasmu sekarang bukankah Ina ada suami yang harus mengambil tanggungjawab?
Apakah kelebihan mempunyai suami tidak sedikitpun di Syukuri?
Apakah kasihsayang itu hanya harta benda dan duit?
Jadi, sementara muda, cantik, pandai, bergaji besar janganlah terlalu takbur.
Jika Ina meminta seorang lelaki bernama suami, bukan boyfriends.
Allah telah memberikanmu seorang suami walaupun tak sama dengan suami orang lain.
Jika Ina meminta Allah memberikanmu cinta.
Sudah ada orang lelaki yang menepis setiap cabaran dan kemungkinan kerana mencintai mu.
Tetapi, kalau nak bercerai tu bila-bila masapun boleh. Talak seribupun boleh.
Saya tak akan melafazkan melalui mulut saya ini tergesa-gesa apalagi dalam keadaan marah.Cukuplah dengan dosa yang saya tanggung. I am not dare or not prepared di Laknattullah!
Hak untuk bercerai berai sekarang ini saya sudah berikan pada KT atau Ina.
Mintaklah melalui proses Mahkamah. Ini lebih adil.Saya tidak akan gangtung Tak bertali. Itu zalim. Do it if you really dare!You dare because You lose nothing ( cause i nothing to yours). U akan MENANG. Let celebtarates your wins! I am waiting.
I rasa mungkin u dah buat decision to our relation. so as u wont pick up my call, it looks like the answer 4 our relationship. so, as conclusion, i,ll not call u till u make up ur mind. Im dare with ur judgement.tq.
My sms as Reply:
Bayangkanlah jika Ina di Uji Allah dengan penyakit kritikal, seperti paralyse atau buta siapakah yang akan bertanggungjawab jika bukan suami?
Mungkin sewaktu Ina ditimpa kesusahan selama ini, terutamanya masuk lokap di Arab saya langsung tidak berguna dan tidak membantu sedikitpun.
Ketika keluargamu didalam kedukacitaan, suamimu yang sering engkau kutuk-kutuk ini tidak bersusah payah untuk membantu? Jadi, janganlah diungkit pasal tak bagi duit pada Ina semasa Ina di Hospital menunggu arwah ayahandamu dulu.
Kita hidup dalam dua hukum, iaitu hukum Alam dan hukum takdir.Jika berlaku apa-apa takdir buruk seperti hilang upaya atau lumpuh ke atasmu sekarang bukankah Ina ada suami yang harus mengambil tanggungjawab?
Apakah kelebihan mempunyai suami tidak sedikitpun di Syukuri?
Apakah kasihsayang itu hanya harta benda dan duit?
Jadi, sementara muda, cantik, pandai, bergaji besar janganlah terlalu takbur.
Jika Ina meminta seorang lelaki bernama suami, bukan boyfriends.
Allah telah memberikanmu seorang suami walaupun tak sama dengan suami orang lain.
Jika Ina meminta Allah memberikanmu cinta.
Sudah ada orang lelaki yang menepis setiap cabaran dan kemungkinan kerana mencintai mu.
Tetapi, kalau nak bercerai tu bila-bila masapun boleh. Talak seribupun boleh.
Saya tak akan melafazkan melalui mulut saya ini tergesa-gesa apalagi dalam keadaan marah.Cukuplah dengan dosa yang saya tanggung. I am not dare or not prepared di Laknattullah!
Hak untuk bercerai berai sekarang ini saya sudah berikan pada KT atau Ina.
Mintaklah melalui proses Mahkamah. Ini lebih adil.Saya tidak akan gangtung Tak bertali. Itu zalim. Do it if you really dare!You dare because You lose nothing ( cause i nothing to yours). U akan MENANG. Let celebtarates your wins! I am waiting.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Doa
Kalau dia memang jodohku, Dekatkanlah. ..Tapi kalau bukan jodohku, Jodohkanlah. …
Jika dia tidak berjodoh denganku,maka jadikanlah kami berjodoh..
Kalau dia bukan jodohku,jangan sampai dia dapet jodoh yang lain, selain aku…
Kalau dia tidak bisa di jodohkan denganku,jangan sampai dia dapet jodoh yang lain,biarinkan dia tidak berjodoh sama seperti diriku…Dan pada saat dia telah tidak memiliki jodoh,jodohkanlah kami kembali…
Kalau dia jodoh orang lain,putuskanlah! Jodohkanlah dengan ku….Jika dia tetap menjadi jodoh orang lain,biar orang itu ketemu jodoh dengan yang lain dankemudian Jodohkan kembali si dia dengan ku …
“Amin…”.
Jika dia tidak berjodoh denganku,maka jadikanlah kami berjodoh..
Kalau dia bukan jodohku,jangan sampai dia dapet jodoh yang lain, selain aku…
Kalau dia tidak bisa di jodohkan denganku,jangan sampai dia dapet jodoh yang lain,biarinkan dia tidak berjodoh sama seperti diriku…Dan pada saat dia telah tidak memiliki jodoh,jodohkanlah kami kembali…
Kalau dia jodoh orang lain,putuskanlah! Jodohkanlah dengan ku….Jika dia tetap menjadi jodoh orang lain,biar orang itu ketemu jodoh dengan yang lain dankemudian Jodohkan kembali si dia dengan ku …
“Amin…”.
100 reasons to hates, no reason for happiness?
In our relationship as married couples, You have hundreds of reasons to hates me. If we say it in another way, there are so many things which make you tensed, stressed. Most of time, You are in stressed mode. You just keep worrying and hates about this or that thing. You have so many things to worry and hate but don't you have even one reason to be happy which may keep us happy all the day, despite so many reasons of worry and hate?. We might need to learn how to live in this streessful world of married relationship. Whatever you say, but at the end of the day, if you compare, how much time you felt happy or worried then in most of will found that life is short and full of tensions. Even single issue can keep us worried for whole day.I just want to say that despite all the worries and hates of life, we should keep searching for reasons of happiness and try to be happy most of the time in our relationships.
If this words, if I can make one reasons for you to happy: I will said. ‘’I love You Very Much”
If this words, if I can make one reasons for you to happy: I will said. ‘’I love You Very Much”
Tanggungjawab Isteri / Suami.
[Nota yang dicuri dalam buku tingkatan Lima Anak saya]
1. Tanggungjawab suami.( Mungkin satupun tidak ada pada saya)
• Menyediakan keperluan asas kepada isteri dan anak berdasarkan kemampuan
• Memberi nafkah zahir dan batin
• Bertanggungjawab terhdap pendidikan anak
• Mencurahkan kasih sayang kepada isteri dan anak
• Mewujudkan pergaulan yang baik
• Memberi perlindungan kepada isteri dan anak
• Adil jika berpoligmi
2. Ciri-ciri suami yang baik( Ini lagi ler tak dak)
• Beriman
• Berakhlak mulia
• Bertanggungjawab
• Taat pada ajaran islam
• Berilmu pengetahuan
3. Tanggungjawab isteri( Ha..Semua nya ada pada mu)
• Mentaati suami berdasarkan kehendak islam
• Menjaga maruah diri dan harta suaminya
• Menjaga kebersihan diri dan anak seta rumah tangga
• Menjaga dan mendidik anak dengan sempurna
• Mengadakan pergaulan yang baik
• Tidak meninggalkan rumah tanpa izin suami
4. Ciri-ciri isteri yang solehahm (Lagi senarai yang ada pada dirimu)
• Beriman
• Berakhlak mulia
• Patuh pada ajaran islam
• Menjaga kehormatan / maruah diri
• Berilmu pengetahuan
• Sentiasa melakukan kebaikan
5. Tanggungjawab bersama( Tetapi tanggungjawab ini U saja yang pikul)
• Berusaha mengekalkan kebahagiaan rumah tangga
• Memberi pendidikan kepada anak
• Memberi kasih sayang kepada anak
• Memberi layanan baik kepada keluarga kedua-dua belah pihak
• Sama-sama berkorban untuk kebahagiaan anak
6. Kesan pengabaian tanggungjawab terhadap keluarga
• Hubungan suami isteri akan renggang dan berlaku perselisihan
• Pasangan suami isteri mungkin akan memilih perceraian sebagai jalan penyelesaian masalah hubungan suami isteri
• Anak-anak menjadi mangsa perceraian dan akan terabai didikan serta kasih sayang
7. Kesan kerukunan rumahtangga terhadap pembangunan umat
• Keluarga merupakan salah satu komponen terpenting yang membentuk identiti masyarakat
• Akan lahir para cendekiawan dan pemimpin berkaliber kerana mendapat didikan yang baik dari keluarga yang harmoni
• Akan lahir anak-anak yang cemerlang dan bijak
8. Persiapan ke arah keluarga bahagia
• Dari sudut ilmu pengetahuan
Dengan mendalami ilmu agama
Dengan mendidik anak-anak dengan ilmu pengetahuan
Dengan mengetahui ilmu-ilmu semasa sebagai persiapan kearah keluarga bahagia
• Dari sudut ekonomi
Perlu dirancang awal agar tidak menjadi beban pada masa akan datang
Keutamaan diberi untuk mengurus makan minum, pakaian, tempat tinggal dan pendidikan yang sempurna
• Dari sudut akhlak
Ia adalah tonggak keharmonian keluarga
Tanpanya keluarga akan kucar kacir
Suami perlu menjadi contoh terlebih dahulu dan menjadi ikutan kepada isteri dan anak
Nilai murni perlu diterapkan seperti hormat-menghormati, bertimbang rasa, tolong-menolong dll bagi menjamin keluarga yang bahagia.
1. Tanggungjawab suami.( Mungkin satupun tidak ada pada saya)
• Menyediakan keperluan asas kepada isteri dan anak berdasarkan kemampuan
• Memberi nafkah zahir dan batin
• Bertanggungjawab terhdap pendidikan anak
• Mencurahkan kasih sayang kepada isteri dan anak
• Mewujudkan pergaulan yang baik
• Memberi perlindungan kepada isteri dan anak
• Adil jika berpoligmi
2. Ciri-ciri suami yang baik( Ini lagi ler tak dak)
• Beriman
• Berakhlak mulia
• Bertanggungjawab
• Taat pada ajaran islam
• Berilmu pengetahuan
3. Tanggungjawab isteri( Ha..Semua nya ada pada mu)
• Mentaati suami berdasarkan kehendak islam
• Menjaga maruah diri dan harta suaminya
• Menjaga kebersihan diri dan anak seta rumah tangga
• Menjaga dan mendidik anak dengan sempurna
• Mengadakan pergaulan yang baik
• Tidak meninggalkan rumah tanpa izin suami
4. Ciri-ciri isteri yang solehahm (Lagi senarai yang ada pada dirimu)
• Beriman
• Berakhlak mulia
• Patuh pada ajaran islam
• Menjaga kehormatan / maruah diri
• Berilmu pengetahuan
• Sentiasa melakukan kebaikan
5. Tanggungjawab bersama( Tetapi tanggungjawab ini U saja yang pikul)
• Berusaha mengekalkan kebahagiaan rumah tangga
• Memberi pendidikan kepada anak
• Memberi kasih sayang kepada anak
• Memberi layanan baik kepada keluarga kedua-dua belah pihak
• Sama-sama berkorban untuk kebahagiaan anak
6. Kesan pengabaian tanggungjawab terhadap keluarga
• Hubungan suami isteri akan renggang dan berlaku perselisihan
• Pasangan suami isteri mungkin akan memilih perceraian sebagai jalan penyelesaian masalah hubungan suami isteri
• Anak-anak menjadi mangsa perceraian dan akan terabai didikan serta kasih sayang
7. Kesan kerukunan rumahtangga terhadap pembangunan umat
• Keluarga merupakan salah satu komponen terpenting yang membentuk identiti masyarakat
• Akan lahir para cendekiawan dan pemimpin berkaliber kerana mendapat didikan yang baik dari keluarga yang harmoni
• Akan lahir anak-anak yang cemerlang dan bijak
8. Persiapan ke arah keluarga bahagia
• Dari sudut ilmu pengetahuan
Dengan mendalami ilmu agama
Dengan mendidik anak-anak dengan ilmu pengetahuan
Dengan mengetahui ilmu-ilmu semasa sebagai persiapan kearah keluarga bahagia
• Dari sudut ekonomi
Perlu dirancang awal agar tidak menjadi beban pada masa akan datang
Keutamaan diberi untuk mengurus makan minum, pakaian, tempat tinggal dan pendidikan yang sempurna
• Dari sudut akhlak
Ia adalah tonggak keharmonian keluarga
Tanpanya keluarga akan kucar kacir
Suami perlu menjadi contoh terlebih dahulu dan menjadi ikutan kepada isteri dan anak
Nilai murni perlu diterapkan seperti hormat-menghormati, bertimbang rasa, tolong-menolong dll bagi menjamin keluarga yang bahagia.
Hak suami bagaimana?
Sebagai Renungan, disi diambil masaalah seorang wanita yang ditanyakan kepada Ustaz Hayyi jabatan Ugama Islam, sebagai menjawab soalan mu mengenai apakah yang telah U dapat bila kahwin dengan I, dengan ringkas dan telah berkali-kali menjawab secara langsung atau tidak bahawa U tidak dapat apa-apa.Tetapi, I telah banyak mendapat keuntungan kerana kahwin dengan U.Terutama sejak U bekerja dengan gaji besar di Tabuk.Renungkanlah artikel ini dan buatlah pertimbangan.
Hak dan tanggungjawab isteri
SOALAN: Saya seorang isteri yang bermadu sejak 10 tahun yang lalu. Suami saya seorang pegawai di sebuah jabatan kerajaan yang beroperasi 24 jam. Giliran bermalam bersama saya selalunya berlaku pada hari suami bertugas syif malam.
Ketika giliran bersama madu saya pula dia bekerja syif siang. Batin saya sungguh menderita kerana tidak pernah bertemu suami di waktu malam. Sebagai seorang isteri yang normal dan berusia 35 tahun, saya memerlukan hak untuk bersama, tetapi suami saya buat tidak faham hasrat saya.
Soalan saya, apa hukum suami yang tidak memberi hak isteri untuk bersama. Apakah dikira adil dengan hanya memberi waktu siang sahaja untuk giliran saya, sedangkan kepada isteri keduanya diberi giliran waktu siang dan malam. - ROHAYA, Bukit Kuching.
JAWAPAN: Merujuk kemusykilan puan tentang hak mendapat layanan kebatinan di malam hari, saya ingin tegaskan, hubungan sulit yang tidak sempurna memang suatu masalah dalam rumah tangga yang perlu diselesaikan dengan baik, tetapi masalah ini adalah ekoran daripada kecintaan yang lesu dan tidak bertenaga.
Suatu hakikat yang tidak dinafikan, hubungan sulit antara suami isteri tidak pernah dipandang kecil oleh Islam, justeru itu, suami yang berbilang isteri hendaklah menentukan giliran antara isteri dengan adil. Jika gagal dibimbangi perjalanannya tempang ketika di akhirat nanti. Dalam sebuah hadis Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Sesiapa yang mempunyai berbilang isteri, dia tidak berlaku adil terhadap mereka, akan dibangkit pada hari akhirat dalam keadaan senget.
Al-Quran menyentuh kerukunan hidup berpasangan adalah suatu nikmat anugerah Allah yang sangat dihargai, iaitu dalam ayat 21 surah al-Rum yang membawa terjemahan: Dan di antara tanda-tanda yang membuktikan kekuasaan dan rahmatnya bahawa Ia menciptakan untuk kamu pasang-pasangan hidup dari jenis kamu sendiri, supaya kamu bersenang hati dan hidup mesra dengannya.
Ayat ini menjelaskan, ketenangan hati dan kemesraan hidup dengan pasangan, merupakan nikmat yang sangat besar dan tujuan utama perkahwinan didirikan, kerana apalah ertinya bersuami atau beristeri jika hidup sentiasa keruh, kehendak batin tidak terlayan dengan sempurna.
Justeru hubungan sulit menentukan kebahagiaan suami isteri, maka Islam menjadikannya sebagai amalan yang ada pahala padanya. Dalam sebuah hadis yang panjang, diriwayat Muslim daripada Abu Zar Al-Ghifari r.a bahawa Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Apakah kegiatan seks itu diberi pahala, sedangkan ia dilakukan semata-mata kerana nafsu? Sabda baginda lagi: Bukankah menjadi dosa jika dilakukannya pada jalan haram? Begitu juga ada pahala, kerana ia melakukannya pada jalan yang halal.
Seperti yang saya katakan, masalah puan tidak bermula di sini, tetapi berpunca daripada masalah-masalah lain yang tidak dinyatakan di sini. Oleh itu suka saya nyatakan bahawa insan dalam syariat Islam, sama ada lelaki mahupun wanita adalah makhluk yang memikul beban tugas pada masa yang sama juga mempunyai hak atas segala tanggungjawab yang disempurnakan.
Ajaran Islam berbeza dengan budaya yang diamal dalam masyarakat Barat. Mereka selalu bertanya: Apa hak yang patut saya peroleh? Sebaliknya Islam mengajar umatnya supaya bertanya: Apa kewajipan saya yang saya belum penuhi, kemudian baru beralih kepada hak yang patut saya peroleh? Memang majikan dituntut membayar upah, tetapi setelah kerja sempurna dijalankan. Sabda Nabi: Bayarlah upah kepada pekerja sebelum kering keringatnya.
Hak seseorang manusia pada hakikatnya suatu kewajipan yang ditanggung orang lain. Sebagai contoh, hak anak-anak mendapatkan kasih sayang ibu bapa, pada masa yang sama ia adalah tanggungjawab ibu bapa terhadap anak-anaknya. Anak-anak seolah-olah berhutang kasih sayang pada kedua-dua ibu bapanya, kerana mereka bertanggungjawab mentaati ibu bapanya, terutama setelah mereka uzur atau lanjut usia.
Hubungan antara suami isteri adalah dibuat melalui suatu kontrak yang membabitkan sama-sama mempunyai hak dan tanggungjawab secara timbal balas. Setiap tanggungjawab yang disempurnakan, sepatutnya dibayar dengan hak yang dinikmati. Dengan kata lain, suami dan isteri, masing-masing mempunyai hak mengambil dan memberi. Tiada hak yang diambil dengan percuma, tanpa tanggungjawab yang diberi.
Pada hemat saya, poligami bukan punca sebenar berlakunya salah faham antara puan dengan suami, bukan juga masalah syif malam atau siang yang tidak digilirkan dengan saksama, sehingga menjejaskan kerukunan rumah tangga dan kedamaian waktu malam yang sepi, tetapi poligami itu sendiri berpunca daripada pembinaan rumah tangga di atas tapak yang tidak sempurna, mudah runtuh atau rumah dibina tanpa mengikut pelan yang dirancang dengan teratur. Selanjutnya rumah itu didiami tanpa peraturan keselamatan yang cukup.
Walaupun puan tidak menyatakan dengan terperinci latar belakang suami dan keluarga puan, saya hampir berpendapat rumah tangga yang puan bina selama ini, tidak betul asas dan struktur pembinaannya. Puan dan suami tidak pula segera membetulkan kesilapan itu sehingga rumah menjadi condong dan hampir tumbang. Suami puan lebih suka membina rumah kedua apabila disedari rumah pertamanya hampir tumbang menimpa kepalanya sendiri.
Dalam sesetengah keadaan, pilihan seperti yang dibuat suami puan itu lebih tidak bernasib, kerana tindakan seumpama itu belum tentu menyelamatkan dirinya. Banyak kes menunjukkan rumah keduanya juga mudah runtuh dan benar-benar menimpa kepalanya, akhirnya dia terpaksa kembali ke rumah pertama dengan penuh penyesalan.
Bagaimanapun puan tidak harus menunggu keruntuhan rumah suami yang kedua ini untuk menyelamatkan rumah puan, kerana ada juga kemungkinan ia tidak runtuh, hanya senget-senget sahaja, sama juga dengan rumah puan sendiri.
Sebenarnya rumah yang dibina di atas tapak yang tidak kukuh memang tidak selesa didiami. Apa pun permasalahannya, rumah kini terbina, baik buruk pun itulah rumah puan. Puan hanya perlu menerima kenyataan yang ada, serahkan sahaja kepada takdir, bersabar dan atasi masalah dengan bijaksana, berbekalkan iman dan takwa pada Allah.
Justeru usia pun masih muda, kira-kira 35 tahun, puan masih berpeluang memperbaikinya dengan syarat struktur yang ada ditukar dengan struktur yang baru. Rundingkan masalah itu dengan suami puan secara bijaksana dan terbuka, tanpa dipengaruhi emosi. Kita ikuti apa kata Syeikh Muhammad al-Ghazali yang menulis struktur asas bagi pembinaan rumah tangga bahagia, katanya:
Sesebuah rumah hendaklah dibina di atas tiga struktur asas, iaitu: al-sakinah (ketenangan), al-mawaddah (kemesraan) dan al-tarahum (timbang rasa). Asas pertama ketenangan, ia membawa maksud hendaklah suami isteri berpuas hati dengan pasangannya, mereka seharusnya tidak berminat dengan yang lain. Puan sepatutnya tahu apa yang disukai suami puan, sediakan keperluan yang disukainya terlebih dahulu, sebelum meminta sesuatu daripadanya. Kedua, kemesraan pula membawa erti suka dan duka secara bersama. Ketiga, timbang rasa pula lebih banyak merujuk kepada akhlak yang mulia, serta tahu bersyukur atas nikmat yang diperoleh.
Sesebuah rumah yang berjaya didirikan di atas tiga struktur ini merupakan keluarga yang paling bahagia, bahkan inilah keluarga yang mampu mengatasi segala cabaran hidup dan ibu bapa yang bakal melahirkan zuriat yang sihat dan keberkatan yang berpanjangan.
Harta benda dan kemewahan hidup tidak pernah menjamin kebahagiaan yang dicari-cari, kadang-kadang hidup di sebuah rumah usang, pasangan lebih mampu mengukir senyum yang berterusan. Perhatikan sebuah hadis riwayat Sa'd ibn Abu Waqqas r.a, katanya: Nabi s.a.w bersabda: Tiga perkara yang membahagiakan: Isteri yang setia, kenderaan yang senang ditunggangi dan kediaman yang selesa.
Seseorang yang ada niat mendirikan rumah tangga, hendaklah berhati-hati mencari pasangan yang ada padanya ciri-ciri yang disebutkan dalam hadis di atas. Pada saya lelaki dan perempuan sama sahaja, bahkan perempuan lebih perlu berhati-hati dalam memilih bakal suaminya.
Perlu diingat, kalangan lelaki ada juga yang hanya berfikir tentang haknya, tetapi lupakan tanggungjawab. Selalunya orang ini sombong atau besar diri, tidak sudi melihat keperluan pada pihak lain. Rumah tangga Islam perlu didirikan di atas hak dan tanggungjawab bersama, mengikut kaedah yang dinyatakan dalam al-Quran, iaitu isteri-isteri mempunyai hak yang sama, seperti kewajipan yang ditanggung oleh mereka. Dalam pada itu orang lelaki mempunyai satu darjah kelebihan, (al-Baqarah: 228). Satu darjah kelebihan yang dimaksudkan ialah menjadi ketua keluarga, atau pengerusi dalam persyarikatan hidup.
Menjadi isteri memerlukan kelayakan yang cukup. Wanita yang berhati batu, tidak pandai memujuk suami, sering menuntut hak dan mengada-adakan masalah, tetapi gagal menunaikan tanggungjawab, tidak layak menjadi suri rumah, apalagi menjadi ibu kepada anak-anak yang bakal menyambung zuriat. Kelayakan yang serupa juga hendaklah dikatakan kepada lelaki yang berminat menjadi suami.
Suatu kisah yang cukup menarik diriwayat Abu Sa'id al-Khudri r.a katanya: Seorang lelaki datang mengadu kepada Rasulullah kerana anak gadisnya tidak mahu berkahwin. Sabda Nabi kepada gadis itu: Patuhilah kehendak bapamu. Jawab gadis: Saya tidak akan kahwin sehingga Rasulullah menyatakan apa tanggungjawab saya sebagai isteri. Baginda Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Jika suamimu berkudis, lalu engkau rawat kudisnya dengan mulutmu, maka perbuatan itu tidak wajar dianggap sebagai keterlaluan. Jawab gadis: Demi Allah, kalau begitu tugas isteri, aku tidak akan kahwin selama-lamanya. Sabda Nabi kepada bapanya: Jangan engkau paksa dia kahwin. Biarlah dia membuat keputusan sendiri - (Qadaya al-Mar'ah, halaman 128).
Sebenarnya apa yang dikatakan kepada isteri terhadap suami, itulah juga dikatakan kepada lelaki terhadap isterinya. Jika ada suami yang berasa jijik merawat kudis-kudis isterinya, atau isteri hanya di waktu sihat sahaja, maka lebih baik bagi lelaki ini berpuasa sahaja, sesuai dengan nasihat Rasulullah s.a.w yang bermaksud: Sesiapa yang tidak mampu kahwin, hendaklah ia berpuasa, kerana puasa menjadi pengikat nafsunya. Wallahualam.
Hak dan tanggungjawab isteri
SOALAN: Saya seorang isteri yang bermadu sejak 10 tahun yang lalu. Suami saya seorang pegawai di sebuah jabatan kerajaan yang beroperasi 24 jam. Giliran bermalam bersama saya selalunya berlaku pada hari suami bertugas syif malam.
Ketika giliran bersama madu saya pula dia bekerja syif siang. Batin saya sungguh menderita kerana tidak pernah bertemu suami di waktu malam. Sebagai seorang isteri yang normal dan berusia 35 tahun, saya memerlukan hak untuk bersama, tetapi suami saya buat tidak faham hasrat saya.
Soalan saya, apa hukum suami yang tidak memberi hak isteri untuk bersama. Apakah dikira adil dengan hanya memberi waktu siang sahaja untuk giliran saya, sedangkan kepada isteri keduanya diberi giliran waktu siang dan malam. - ROHAYA, Bukit Kuching.
JAWAPAN: Merujuk kemusykilan puan tentang hak mendapat layanan kebatinan di malam hari, saya ingin tegaskan, hubungan sulit yang tidak sempurna memang suatu masalah dalam rumah tangga yang perlu diselesaikan dengan baik, tetapi masalah ini adalah ekoran daripada kecintaan yang lesu dan tidak bertenaga.
Suatu hakikat yang tidak dinafikan, hubungan sulit antara suami isteri tidak pernah dipandang kecil oleh Islam, justeru itu, suami yang berbilang isteri hendaklah menentukan giliran antara isteri dengan adil. Jika gagal dibimbangi perjalanannya tempang ketika di akhirat nanti. Dalam sebuah hadis Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Sesiapa yang mempunyai berbilang isteri, dia tidak berlaku adil terhadap mereka, akan dibangkit pada hari akhirat dalam keadaan senget.
Al-Quran menyentuh kerukunan hidup berpasangan adalah suatu nikmat anugerah Allah yang sangat dihargai, iaitu dalam ayat 21 surah al-Rum yang membawa terjemahan: Dan di antara tanda-tanda yang membuktikan kekuasaan dan rahmatnya bahawa Ia menciptakan untuk kamu pasang-pasangan hidup dari jenis kamu sendiri, supaya kamu bersenang hati dan hidup mesra dengannya.
Ayat ini menjelaskan, ketenangan hati dan kemesraan hidup dengan pasangan, merupakan nikmat yang sangat besar dan tujuan utama perkahwinan didirikan, kerana apalah ertinya bersuami atau beristeri jika hidup sentiasa keruh, kehendak batin tidak terlayan dengan sempurna.
Justeru hubungan sulit menentukan kebahagiaan suami isteri, maka Islam menjadikannya sebagai amalan yang ada pahala padanya. Dalam sebuah hadis yang panjang, diriwayat Muslim daripada Abu Zar Al-Ghifari r.a bahawa Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Apakah kegiatan seks itu diberi pahala, sedangkan ia dilakukan semata-mata kerana nafsu? Sabda baginda lagi: Bukankah menjadi dosa jika dilakukannya pada jalan haram? Begitu juga ada pahala, kerana ia melakukannya pada jalan yang halal.
Seperti yang saya katakan, masalah puan tidak bermula di sini, tetapi berpunca daripada masalah-masalah lain yang tidak dinyatakan di sini. Oleh itu suka saya nyatakan bahawa insan dalam syariat Islam, sama ada lelaki mahupun wanita adalah makhluk yang memikul beban tugas pada masa yang sama juga mempunyai hak atas segala tanggungjawab yang disempurnakan.
Ajaran Islam berbeza dengan budaya yang diamal dalam masyarakat Barat. Mereka selalu bertanya: Apa hak yang patut saya peroleh? Sebaliknya Islam mengajar umatnya supaya bertanya: Apa kewajipan saya yang saya belum penuhi, kemudian baru beralih kepada hak yang patut saya peroleh? Memang majikan dituntut membayar upah, tetapi setelah kerja sempurna dijalankan. Sabda Nabi: Bayarlah upah kepada pekerja sebelum kering keringatnya.
Hak seseorang manusia pada hakikatnya suatu kewajipan yang ditanggung orang lain. Sebagai contoh, hak anak-anak mendapatkan kasih sayang ibu bapa, pada masa yang sama ia adalah tanggungjawab ibu bapa terhadap anak-anaknya. Anak-anak seolah-olah berhutang kasih sayang pada kedua-dua ibu bapanya, kerana mereka bertanggungjawab mentaati ibu bapanya, terutama setelah mereka uzur atau lanjut usia.
Hubungan antara suami isteri adalah dibuat melalui suatu kontrak yang membabitkan sama-sama mempunyai hak dan tanggungjawab secara timbal balas. Setiap tanggungjawab yang disempurnakan, sepatutnya dibayar dengan hak yang dinikmati. Dengan kata lain, suami dan isteri, masing-masing mempunyai hak mengambil dan memberi. Tiada hak yang diambil dengan percuma, tanpa tanggungjawab yang diberi.
Pada hemat saya, poligami bukan punca sebenar berlakunya salah faham antara puan dengan suami, bukan juga masalah syif malam atau siang yang tidak digilirkan dengan saksama, sehingga menjejaskan kerukunan rumah tangga dan kedamaian waktu malam yang sepi, tetapi poligami itu sendiri berpunca daripada pembinaan rumah tangga di atas tapak yang tidak sempurna, mudah runtuh atau rumah dibina tanpa mengikut pelan yang dirancang dengan teratur. Selanjutnya rumah itu didiami tanpa peraturan keselamatan yang cukup.
Walaupun puan tidak menyatakan dengan terperinci latar belakang suami dan keluarga puan, saya hampir berpendapat rumah tangga yang puan bina selama ini, tidak betul asas dan struktur pembinaannya. Puan dan suami tidak pula segera membetulkan kesilapan itu sehingga rumah menjadi condong dan hampir tumbang. Suami puan lebih suka membina rumah kedua apabila disedari rumah pertamanya hampir tumbang menimpa kepalanya sendiri.
Dalam sesetengah keadaan, pilihan seperti yang dibuat suami puan itu lebih tidak bernasib, kerana tindakan seumpama itu belum tentu menyelamatkan dirinya. Banyak kes menunjukkan rumah keduanya juga mudah runtuh dan benar-benar menimpa kepalanya, akhirnya dia terpaksa kembali ke rumah pertama dengan penuh penyesalan.
Bagaimanapun puan tidak harus menunggu keruntuhan rumah suami yang kedua ini untuk menyelamatkan rumah puan, kerana ada juga kemungkinan ia tidak runtuh, hanya senget-senget sahaja, sama juga dengan rumah puan sendiri.
Sebenarnya rumah yang dibina di atas tapak yang tidak kukuh memang tidak selesa didiami. Apa pun permasalahannya, rumah kini terbina, baik buruk pun itulah rumah puan. Puan hanya perlu menerima kenyataan yang ada, serahkan sahaja kepada takdir, bersabar dan atasi masalah dengan bijaksana, berbekalkan iman dan takwa pada Allah.
Justeru usia pun masih muda, kira-kira 35 tahun, puan masih berpeluang memperbaikinya dengan syarat struktur yang ada ditukar dengan struktur yang baru. Rundingkan masalah itu dengan suami puan secara bijaksana dan terbuka, tanpa dipengaruhi emosi. Kita ikuti apa kata Syeikh Muhammad al-Ghazali yang menulis struktur asas bagi pembinaan rumah tangga bahagia, katanya:
Sesebuah rumah hendaklah dibina di atas tiga struktur asas, iaitu: al-sakinah (ketenangan), al-mawaddah (kemesraan) dan al-tarahum (timbang rasa). Asas pertama ketenangan, ia membawa maksud hendaklah suami isteri berpuas hati dengan pasangannya, mereka seharusnya tidak berminat dengan yang lain. Puan sepatutnya tahu apa yang disukai suami puan, sediakan keperluan yang disukainya terlebih dahulu, sebelum meminta sesuatu daripadanya. Kedua, kemesraan pula membawa erti suka dan duka secara bersama. Ketiga, timbang rasa pula lebih banyak merujuk kepada akhlak yang mulia, serta tahu bersyukur atas nikmat yang diperoleh.
Sesebuah rumah yang berjaya didirikan di atas tiga struktur ini merupakan keluarga yang paling bahagia, bahkan inilah keluarga yang mampu mengatasi segala cabaran hidup dan ibu bapa yang bakal melahirkan zuriat yang sihat dan keberkatan yang berpanjangan.
Harta benda dan kemewahan hidup tidak pernah menjamin kebahagiaan yang dicari-cari, kadang-kadang hidup di sebuah rumah usang, pasangan lebih mampu mengukir senyum yang berterusan. Perhatikan sebuah hadis riwayat Sa'd ibn Abu Waqqas r.a, katanya: Nabi s.a.w bersabda: Tiga perkara yang membahagiakan: Isteri yang setia, kenderaan yang senang ditunggangi dan kediaman yang selesa.
Seseorang yang ada niat mendirikan rumah tangga, hendaklah berhati-hati mencari pasangan yang ada padanya ciri-ciri yang disebutkan dalam hadis di atas. Pada saya lelaki dan perempuan sama sahaja, bahkan perempuan lebih perlu berhati-hati dalam memilih bakal suaminya.
Perlu diingat, kalangan lelaki ada juga yang hanya berfikir tentang haknya, tetapi lupakan tanggungjawab. Selalunya orang ini sombong atau besar diri, tidak sudi melihat keperluan pada pihak lain. Rumah tangga Islam perlu didirikan di atas hak dan tanggungjawab bersama, mengikut kaedah yang dinyatakan dalam al-Quran, iaitu isteri-isteri mempunyai hak yang sama, seperti kewajipan yang ditanggung oleh mereka. Dalam pada itu orang lelaki mempunyai satu darjah kelebihan, (al-Baqarah: 228). Satu darjah kelebihan yang dimaksudkan ialah menjadi ketua keluarga, atau pengerusi dalam persyarikatan hidup.
Menjadi isteri memerlukan kelayakan yang cukup. Wanita yang berhati batu, tidak pandai memujuk suami, sering menuntut hak dan mengada-adakan masalah, tetapi gagal menunaikan tanggungjawab, tidak layak menjadi suri rumah, apalagi menjadi ibu kepada anak-anak yang bakal menyambung zuriat. Kelayakan yang serupa juga hendaklah dikatakan kepada lelaki yang berminat menjadi suami.
Suatu kisah yang cukup menarik diriwayat Abu Sa'id al-Khudri r.a katanya: Seorang lelaki datang mengadu kepada Rasulullah kerana anak gadisnya tidak mahu berkahwin. Sabda Nabi kepada gadis itu: Patuhilah kehendak bapamu. Jawab gadis: Saya tidak akan kahwin sehingga Rasulullah menyatakan apa tanggungjawab saya sebagai isteri. Baginda Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Jika suamimu berkudis, lalu engkau rawat kudisnya dengan mulutmu, maka perbuatan itu tidak wajar dianggap sebagai keterlaluan. Jawab gadis: Demi Allah, kalau begitu tugas isteri, aku tidak akan kahwin selama-lamanya. Sabda Nabi kepada bapanya: Jangan engkau paksa dia kahwin. Biarlah dia membuat keputusan sendiri - (Qadaya al-Mar'ah, halaman 128).
Sebenarnya apa yang dikatakan kepada isteri terhadap suami, itulah juga dikatakan kepada lelaki terhadap isterinya. Jika ada suami yang berasa jijik merawat kudis-kudis isterinya, atau isteri hanya di waktu sihat sahaja, maka lebih baik bagi lelaki ini berpuasa sahaja, sesuai dengan nasihat Rasulullah s.a.w yang bermaksud: Sesiapa yang tidak mampu kahwin, hendaklah ia berpuasa, kerana puasa menjadi pengikat nafsunya. Wallahualam.
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